Is it normal to be quiet when almost raped?

Yeah I knew that.

Goodluck and godspeed.

Awesome!

You are welcome for the encouragement.

I congratulate you on your new effort of becoming a better person!

It takes time to change one's behaviors and patterns but you certainly can do it.

Remember the true test of character is when you really want to do something 'wrong' but you do the right thing anyway.

Here's a good stress relief:

Take a hike to the top of a mountain then look out at the view and yell :

"MOTHER FUCKERS YOU WON'T BEAT ME!"

Don't let the bastards grind you down. It's the game they play.

Hi, I wrote a few replies below but I wanted to ask you this too :

After I wrote those replies I've been reading about Swedish girls and how they are apparently very masculine in their personalities.
Rude, obnoxious, loud, verbally abusive or vulgar, etc.

Hardly feminine at all.

Is that true?

Is that how most Swedish girls are or a lot of them?

Here in the states the only girls like that are East coast girls (New York) and it's very unattractive.

Hi and thanks for your replies :)

"Yeah, age of consent is fifteen. So a fifty year old man could fuck a fifteen year old without this being a crime. Morally most people would label him as gross and vile though. But it would not be a crime."

Do a lot of older guys fuck 15-17 yr olds in Sweden then?
If it's legal I would think so.

To me, if everyone is consenting and happy to do it then there's no crime or immorality.

I'd be surprised if you labeled him as something bad. I think you're more sexually open than others.

' Now let's count ... I knew two girls (One by a "friend" '

What were the circumstances where they messing around before he had sex with her or were they on a date or did he just force his way on her out of the blue?

Does the girl still have contact/talk to the guy even if occasionally?
How does she feel about him now?

" and another one by her dad) "

Does she still have contact with her dad or has she disowned him?
At what age did it start? Was she ever willing or allowing it or did she tell him 'no.'?

I'm thinking she probably still has contact with her family including her dad but each person is different and views these things differently.

The dad thing is something kind of perplexing :

Of course if a girl thinks about her father fucking her most girls would immediately say "EWWWWW GROSS!!!" because that's what we're all taught to think, feel and say.

But if you remove your own emotional personal biases about sex which were taught to you by religion/government/society and you think about it logically those feelings and responses don't make sense. Besides social programming/influence it could also be because the parental units are the ones limiting your freedom and imposing restrictions/control which people generally frown upon.

Let's think about it :
A parental unit's job is to teach their young about everything in life and to give them the skills to live a happy, successful, skilled and fulfilled life. That includes sex. Why would something so important in life that can provide such pleasure, fun and enjoyment not fall upon the parental unit to teach?

Why wouldn't a parent want their child to have great sex and learn how to do it well, safely and have fun?
Why would a parent want to toss their child out in the wild basically knowing nothing about sex and not having any experience doing it subjecting their child to the potentially physically dangerous and emotional traumatic situations?
Date rape, rape, STDs, pregnancy, emotional game playing / deception, etc.?

So why then are the parents expected to teach their offspring EVERYTHING except sex?

Is it only because that's how the religious and governmental powers taught us?

Typically nobody 'loves' someone as much as a parent loves their child, right?

Sex is a form of love, admiration, attraction, and one of the most enjoyable sensations humans can experience. Isn't it natural then for parents to want to share and teach that with their offspring?

Yes? No?

How is then that the tables are turned when it's someone younger than we're told is ok, or when it's with someone in your own family - even foster (not biologically real parents) family?

Why is it 'ok' for a young girl to lust after and fuck her girlfriend's father but not her own?

What's worse:

1. A foster father fucking his young daughter he raised.
He isn't related to her at all he only takes care of her.

or

2. A biological father fucking his young daughter he never raised and he recently met and became friends with. If he never raised her and they didn't know each other previously he never had the 'father' role to her so they were 'strangers' except biologically related and now they are friends.

Which is worse or are neither bad?

I know in certain countries it's more common for fathers to fuck their young daughters and mothers to do the same with their young sons.

I always thought this was kinda gross but from a logical view point it makes sense and my value system is somewhat from my society so who am I to judge other societies?

Now we're assuming the younger person was having a good time and wanted to participate but honesty who doesn't love sex? It feels so good.

Obviously it's wrong when anyone is forced to do something they don't want to.

I've even heard from girls that got 'raped' that actually enjoyed it because it's like they get guilt free sex and a pass to cheat or just feel good / whatever without any worries. I know not every girl is that way but many have rape fantasies and some live them out. Girls that are married, or in long term committed relationships then some hot new guy comes along and 'rapes' them and the girls love it. It's like free cheating to them and 'not their fault'.

Just guilt free no strings attached hot sex.

"Then I know about one who got into a similar situation such as the one that you described, she and a guy had been FwB's for some months BUT she wasn't always in the mood for such activities! She got drunk and fell asleep at his place with her clothes on- To wake up with them off."

This is harder to say but she is at least partly at fault because her relationship with that male was having random sex.

She knows why she's there and what the guy expects. It's also her fault for drinking and passing out in that environment or anywhere. Some girls need to grow up and take responsibility and stop blaming guys for their actions when the girl leads the guy on and makes him assume they're to have sex. The expectations of their relationship have already been established unless she explicitly said she doesn't want to have sex (again) it's expected because that's what they do and that's why she's there. Now, me personally have never fucked a drunk passed out girl but most guys would.

To try to understand how guys mostly view sex, let's reverse the role:
If a guy went over to a girls house that he was regularly fucking but not 'always' in the mood to fuck her and he got drunk and passed out and she sucked his dick then fucked him here's how most guys would feel :

Typically a guy in the situation would be upset with himself for missing the action :)
If he woke up naked and couldn't remember what happened he's generally hoping he got laid and had fun but he's going to be bummed out he doesn't remember and couldn't enjoy it. Remember he's fucked this girl many times already and that's why he went to her place, he just messed up and got too drunk and passed out.

Your situation is similar but different to the one I had envisioned. Maybe I wasn't very clear about it but in my scenario there was already willing oral sex going on, etc. and I was thinking she laid on her stomach and wanted it from behind but then actually fell asleep before he put it in. She was ready to fuck but simply passed out before he slid it in. Maybe the guy wasn't even aware she fell asleep. Both had the intentions of fucking and were willingly naked in bed ready for it but she fell asleep. Her actions gave consent and unless she says otherwise the guy has no idea she's not still down for it.

Intent means a lot. Why a girl goes over to a guy's place at 'midnight' and takes her clothes off, etc.

It's too easy for a girl to cry rape or whatever and then people scorn the guy. No proof, no evidence, just some lying girl trying to get attention, make herself feel better or have a story to tell and get attention or whatever.

Let's also not forget that many people are mentally ill or are on drugs and actually may not remember they gave consent or realize they basically consented in the moment then later regret it as you mentioned.

Did she really consider herself raped and it a big deal?