He is deriving some pleasure from harming you, and you are accepting it. There's little reason bryond empathy and love for him to stop behaving like this and evidently those arent enough. He lacks suficient sympathy to accept your physical impairment and the difficulties it causes and this cruelty is his way of venting his frustrations for whatever is troubling him. He has put your relationship into a negative cycle which will reinforce and increase the troubles between the two of you if it isn't reversed. If you reply in kind that will lead to brinksmanship and divorce.
I do not mean that you should accept the unnacceptable. Rather you should be loving from a position of power not clinging from a position of servility. Find strength within yourself to be above his pettyness, to be warm when he is cold, and calm when he is not. Stop participating in this negative feedback cycle and establish a new, positive one. His issues and yours are each in your respective minds; this is a subjective war of opinion and perspective and you've let him dictate the terms so far. You are not a worthless person and he is not a put upon husband at his wits end. He may have reasons to be stressed and irritable, however in the face of a loving, positive relationship, such hardships are the price he should willingly pay to be with the woman he loves.
Is it normal to be put down so often?
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He is deriving some pleasure from harming you, and you are accepting it. There's little reason bryond empathy and love for him to stop behaving like this and evidently those arent enough. He lacks suficient sympathy to accept your physical impairment and the difficulties it causes and this cruelty is his way of venting his frustrations for whatever is troubling him. He has put your relationship into a negative cycle which will reinforce and increase the troubles between the two of you if it isn't reversed. If you reply in kind that will lead to brinksmanship and divorce.
I do not mean that you should accept the unnacceptable. Rather you should be loving from a position of power not clinging from a position of servility. Find strength within yourself to be above his pettyness, to be warm when he is cold, and calm when he is not. Stop participating in this negative feedback cycle and establish a new, positive one. His issues and yours are each in your respective minds; this is a subjective war of opinion and perspective and you've let him dictate the terms so far. You are not a worthless person and he is not a put upon husband at his wits end. He may have reasons to be stressed and irritable, however in the face of a loving, positive relationship, such hardships are the price he should willingly pay to be with the woman he loves.