Is it normal to be put down so often?

He is deriving some pleasure from harming you, and you are accepting it. There's little reason bryond empathy and love for him to stop behaving like this and evidently those arent enough. He lacks suficient sympathy to accept your physical impairment and the difficulties it causes and this cruelty is his way of venting his frustrations for whatever is troubling him. He has put your relationship into a negative cycle which will reinforce and increase the troubles between the two of you if it isn't reversed. If you reply in kind that will lead to brinksmanship and divorce.

I do not mean that you should accept the unnacceptable. Rather you should be loving from a position of power not clinging from a position of servility. Find strength within yourself to be above his pettyness, to be warm when he is cold, and calm when he is not. Stop participating in this negative feedback cycle and establish a new, positive one. His issues and yours are each in your respective minds; this is a subjective war of opinion and perspective and you've let him dictate the terms so far. You are not a worthless person and he is not a put upon husband at his wits end. He may have reasons to be stressed and irritable, however in the face of a loving, positive relationship, such hardships are the price he should willingly pay to be with the woman he loves.

GET OUT.

this is such a common and crippling problem to unsuspecting women in bad relationships.. I dont understand why it wouldnt be part of a standard curriculum for younf girls. even if only to teach, its a red flag when a man u are dating is always insulting, telling her she'sworthless, ugly, etc etc.. its simplw psychology that this lowers self esteem and otherwise damages the girl. it's disgusting.

ttty has a good point. However, you should not be subjected to treatment like that. It doesn't matter how irritable he is, there is NO excuse for him to talk down to you like that and especially when he isn't working as much or doesn't help you around the house with the physical condition you do have. There's something bothering him that's causing him to take out his anger and frustation out on you.

if ur crippled and hes making u workthen divoece his ass!!! wat a douche bag

That is verbal abuse. My father was verbally abusive and we left

that is a horrible situation to be in. get out, you deserve better

I don't believe in divorce. I vowed till death do us part. He said he would see a councelor but it hasn't happened yet.

.divorce, solves it all

That sounds horrible! I was in an abusive relationship for years and finally got out last year, you deserve better, it's hard at first but you deserve someone who cares for you

Of course he is being abusive. Stand up to him or give him the boot.

how the heck did that pussy get to marry u?
he shouldnt have married u only to make himself feel better wtf ur spouses like my mum when she needs someone to be mad at

He sounds like a dick

Would he be willing to go to marriage counseling?

He sounds like a jerk..

I've dealt with a bf like that for 2 years. I couldn't take it ne more so I left him. Thought I loved him. But found out it wasn't love. It was the fear of being alone. And now I have an amazing bf who treats me like a princess and we r 1 year in<3. It's been 3 years since that horrible relationship. And honestly. I couldn't be happier that douche isn't in my life anymore!

DIVORCE. NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT. PLEASE DIVORCE HIM!!

That is really terrible. You deserve better than that!