Good question. Actually, I was thinking of the intimacy vs isolation phase of Erikson's model of psycho-social development [more details on Wikipedia]. True intimacy is far more than just a sexual relationship. But, it is hard to imagine a functional marriage with deep mutual understanding between partners without it. Hopefully, the OP is young and will someday attain this developmental level of maturity.
You commented saying that I have reacted to something I don't understand. Could you give all of us more details? My ego can take it.
Virgin life is possible in full splendor, even in marriage. It's very common among people who identify as asexual or in certain Christian communities. It is not possible only for them, though. I would argue sex does not help in any way in mutual understanding, though the simple pleasure a sexual individual gains from sex may be, in my view, a motivation to stay in a relationship per itself, whether there is any understanding between the parts at all. While I would agree that a marriage without sex is hard to imagine for most people, I believe it is so only because it's both uncommon and, after the sixties, like Ruth mentioned, not entirely in accordance with the values and aspirations most people hold. That's what I meant by something you don't understand, I was just surmising this kind of life would sound counterintuitive to you. I did not mean it as an offense, though my tone in the rest was kind of offensive. What really irked me was you labeling him as sick because of his lifestyle and personal feelings, which are completely ok. I would also go further than earlier in the post, though, and say that married people are not superior in any way to single people, and some single people are extremely happy and realized, while married people quite often are not. Probably also counterintuitive in our culture, that seems to consider relationships a badge of honor, but true nonetheless. Even if the OP's author stays virgin for the rest of his life, he can still be a fully realized individual, and no one can say he is sick or less developed for keeping his lifestyle.
I'm intrigued by your provocative defense of the single lifestyle. I also think it may be achieveable by certain asexual individuals. . To acknowledge my personal biases, I am a crusty fuck wise ass. As such, I tend to think sexual activity is irresistible. In other words, Catholic priests stick their dicks into little boy's butts, Catholic nuns lick and suck each other while bound in leather straps, and college professors give grade adjustments to desperate female whores. Human reproduction is assured because low sex drive has been eliminated from the gene pool by Darwinian selection.
Of course exceptions exist. But, I do not have the type of personality that these exceptional people would find pleasant. Hence, my under estimation of their existence. Please continue with your thoughtful, insightful, and well argued viewpoints.
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How does sex make you "developed"? And why is it needed for it? Sounds like nonsense.
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Good question. Actually, I was thinking of the intimacy vs isolation phase of Erikson's model of psycho-social development [more details on Wikipedia]. True intimacy is far more than just a sexual relationship. But, it is hard to imagine a functional marriage with deep mutual understanding between partners without it. Hopefully, the OP is young and will someday attain this developmental level of maturity.
You commented saying that I have reacted to something I don't understand. Could you give all of us more details? My ego can take it.
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Virgin life is possible in full splendor, even in marriage. It's very common among people who identify as asexual or in certain Christian communities. It is not possible only for them, though. I would argue sex does not help in any way in mutual understanding, though the simple pleasure a sexual individual gains from sex may be, in my view, a motivation to stay in a relationship per itself, whether there is any understanding between the parts at all. While I would agree that a marriage without sex is hard to imagine for most people, I believe it is so only because it's both uncommon and, after the sixties, like Ruth mentioned, not entirely in accordance with the values and aspirations most people hold. That's what I meant by something you don't understand, I was just surmising this kind of life would sound counterintuitive to you. I did not mean it as an offense, though my tone in the rest was kind of offensive. What really irked me was you labeling him as sick because of his lifestyle and personal feelings, which are completely ok. I would also go further than earlier in the post, though, and say that married people are not superior in any way to single people, and some single people are extremely happy and realized, while married people quite often are not. Probably also counterintuitive in our culture, that seems to consider relationships a badge of honor, but true nonetheless. Even if the OP's author stays virgin for the rest of his life, he can still be a fully realized individual, and no one can say he is sick or less developed for keeping his lifestyle.
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I'm intrigued by your provocative defense of the single lifestyle. I also think it may be achieveable by certain asexual individuals. . To acknowledge my personal biases, I am a crusty fuck wise ass. As such, I tend to think sexual activity is irresistible. In other words, Catholic priests stick their dicks into little boy's butts, Catholic nuns lick and suck each other while bound in leather straps, and college professors give grade adjustments to desperate female whores. Human reproduction is assured because low sex drive has been eliminated from the gene pool by Darwinian selection.
Of course exceptions exist. But, I do not have the type of personality that these exceptional people would find pleasant. Hence, my under estimation of their existence. Please continue with your thoughtful, insightful, and well argued viewpoints.
To all a good night, and to all a good wank.