Is it normal to be picky on who i want to date?

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So I'm a 19 year old girl and I've never had a boyfriend because I am super picky about what I want. Well my friends say I'm picky but I simply say I just know what I want. My dream MAN is mature, intelligent, serious but sweet and can sometimes be humurous, dedicated, and shows true leadership skills. So I want him to work or atleast study to work somewhere where he can use all these skills.(Law enforcement, Medical, FireDept., etc.) I want him to be like the hero type, but can accept that I can take care of myself. As for looks I want him to be fit. I don't want to sound shallow it's just that I've been an athlete my whole life so I like having that in common with a guy. Also I don't want him to be too perfect looking. I can't stand when some guys are so good looking that they can seriously never have a bad angle. It just doesn't seem real. Plus guys like that usually know just how hot they are and tend to let it get to their heads. So my best examples for my dream MAN >>though so far they only exist on TV for me Lol<< are Karl Urban in RED(plays William Cooper), Thomas Gibson in Criminal Minds(plays Hotch), Viggo Mortensen in Lord of the Rings (plays Aragorn), Liam Neeson in Taken (plays Bryan Mills). The characters are my examples K. Lol. Anyway these are the main things I can think of. I have plenty more but these are the qualities I just don't think I can settle with him not having.. Is it normal I am so fixated on this specific list? If a guy doesn't have these certain qualities I don't even try to date him. I mean I'm not stuck up I try to explain how there's just no chemistry and it usually ends well. My friends tell me to just try going out with these guys that come along because one of them might end up being good enough but I don't want "good enough". I want this specific man and I need to believe that he is out there otherwise I'll just be settling and I don't ever want to settle. Is it normal that I'm holding out for this man even though I know it seems insane to believe he's even out there?

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  • sonsofanarchy(:
    11 years ago | pl

    I have a type too , I only find rednecks in their early to mid 20s with facial hair cute. It's just something that has to happen before I could date someone.

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago | pl

    It's okay to have some standards, but think about what you have to offer to that person in return.

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  • worried78
    11 years ago | pl

    Yes it's normal. Not common though.
    I want someone who is perfect for me and we found each other. Be picky all you want, just fill your time with friends and personal interests that otherwise might be taken up by dating and sex. Personally I wouldn't be interested in going indefinitely without sex, but he went 3 years until we connected.

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  • worried78
    11 years ago | pl

    It is possible to meet someone who is perfect for you...that may or may not be who you think you are looking for.

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  • jussayin
    11 years ago | pl

    Mr.Perfect doesn't exsit. I also have high standards, but don't have unrealistic ones.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    Totally normal. PLENTY of people in this world, and you shouldn't have to settle for less. DO, thought give more chances to guys to prove you how amazing they can be. I think you should give them a go, and if they don't surprise you, on to the next one. It's your life, be picky all you want, but make sure to be that dream girl, for someone.

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  • karmasAbich
    11 years ago | pl

    I believe I'm your man.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago | pl

    The reason why script-writers create those characters is because they don't exist in the real world. People pay money to see movies about them because they can't find them in the real world. They want to create someone impossible in the real world, because that in itself makes them attractive.

    I hate to break it to you, but guys like that do not exist. The tiny number that do are always instantly taken and never single.

    In a few years time you'll have grown up, and you'll look back at the chances you'vr had to be with a real guy who was really good but not your "dream guy" and think to yourself "damn, I wish I'd taken those chances". Don't pass up any more chances by chasing an impossible dream.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago | pl

      I know the odds of this man existing are very slim-impossible. Trust me, I've tried to lower my expectations..let someone surprise me..even pretended to like someone hoping it would just grow on me..but for some reason I feel like I really need to believe he's out there for me. It's lame, cheesy, and sad..I know. But it's one of those 'wants' that I don't think I could just forget about..

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago | pl

      I agree completely with this entire post except for one part.

      Guys like what she described do not exist. There is no tiny number of them. They dont exist in general. Thats why they are all fictional characters made up to play parts on a television show or movie.

      And most importantly to keep you entertained.

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  • Ono
    11 years ago | pl

    You might die a lonely virgin if you expect the absolute perfect man for you to come along. Not saying he won't, but to what age are you prepared to wait for mr perfect? 25? 30? 40?

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