Is it normal to be paranoid of seeing my ex?

My ex and I have been broken up for 4 months but live in basically the same town. He has a new gf whom my friends gave told me they see them around here together. I avoided places we used to go to in the beggining as not to see him, but now I feel like I'm paranoid that him and/or his new gf will see me. I feel like they will catch me out alone one day or not looking my best and conclude I'm sad, miserable, and alone. I know I shouldn't care what they think but the thought of being in the same place as them is humiliating. I feel like a prisoner in my home and mind, and I am constantly looking around and over my shoulder everywhere I go. My friends say I'm crazy. I dread going out even to run errands unless it's in another town far away. And my social life is non existent now. Has anyone else felt like this? My anxiety only goes away when I'm in another city and know there's no chance of a run in.

Is It Normal?
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  • Yes this is normal I was like this for ages I still am my ex lives in the same town as me but I haven't seen him in over a year except for last week where he came in to where iWork and ordered food I felt so bad so anxious and shaky I thought I wa going to be sick :(

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  • YeA seriously I bet he is scared of seeing you more than you are of seeing him! Just go out, look awesome, and carry yourself with pride!!!! Rock it, and if there is a run in with them, turn your nose up at them because you're better!

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  • I agree too it still happens to me and it's been nearly 2 years... when I go clubbing I get anxious but put your game face on! plus there an ex for a reason

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  • I agree with her! Let them see you happy as ever!

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  • That happened to me. Just put your game face on, go out and rock it! People only know what you tell them! If you run in to them, so what, play it cool. It's always worse in our heads. Hey, they likely don't want to run into you either and would get the he'll out of dodge if they saw you!!! Don't worry! You're cheating yourself out of life! Screw them!

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