It's totally normal to have any type of desire for sex with someone *other* than your committed partner. It's your mind, you can't always control what's in your head. But you can choose your behavior.
Whatever you decide is between you and your partner. I have a person on my life that I've been seeing for about 7 months. We don't see each other often and are in no rush to commit to each other as boyfriends. Reason being: we're both super busy, and we both enjoy our independence. But the plus side is every time I see him (maybe once a month) we fall in love all over again, and spend the whole day together. And each of us have either had feelings or hook-ups with other people. It doesn't bother us. We're only dating.
But if you're "committed" to someone, you should have a chat with your partner about what exactly that means, and be completely honest about your feelings. Because although he may have forgiven you, you don't know what he's really feeling. My partner and I have spent hours and hours talking numerous times about our relationship and anyone else who comes into our lives. You're probably going to need to have multiple talks as well.
Is it normal to be OK with monogamy only sometimes?
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It's totally normal to have any type of desire for sex with someone *other* than your committed partner. It's your mind, you can't always control what's in your head. But you can choose your behavior.
Whatever you decide is between you and your partner. I have a person on my life that I've been seeing for about 7 months. We don't see each other often and are in no rush to commit to each other as boyfriends. Reason being: we're both super busy, and we both enjoy our independence. But the plus side is every time I see him (maybe once a month) we fall in love all over again, and spend the whole day together. And each of us have either had feelings or hook-ups with other people. It doesn't bother us. We're only dating.
But if you're "committed" to someone, you should have a chat with your partner about what exactly that means, and be completely honest about your feelings. Because although he may have forgiven you, you don't know what he's really feeling. My partner and I have spent hours and hours talking numerous times about our relationship and anyone else who comes into our lives. You're probably going to need to have multiple talks as well.
Good luck!