Is it normal to be nervous about sex

for years I've been told by SOME married couples that sex is the best thing they like about their marriage.
I"m a little nervous being that I never did it before.
see I watched porn for quite some time and I feel like
it looks gross with the whole "is that supposed to go there" routine. and I can honestly say it looks wrong and not normal.
is it normal to be nervous about your first time.

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Based on 202 votes (179 yes)
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  • dappled

    Yes, it's completely normal to be nervous because it's something we don't learn gradually. We get thrust into it suddenly (no pun intended).

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    • ComTlancy

      Always use protection. No need to make yourself out to be a complete dick. pun intended.

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      • dappled

        And cooling lube can stop you burning up on re-entry. ;)

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        • ComTlancy

          But what if you wanted to heat things up in the bedroom?

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          • dappled

            Then perhaps using food is the way to go. A good hot curry always curries favour!

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            • ComTlancy

              Hot going in, hot coming out. I'd hate to see, or hear, the results.

              But in all seriousness, Indian jokes should be dis-curry-iged

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            • OnlyTheTruth

              peppermint is also a good feeling.. sweet but cooling on skin.. ;)

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  • moomus

    Porn is not real life, same as movies are not real life. You wouldn't expect your life to be like the movies would you? Real sex is rarely like porn. And yes it's normal to be nervous, just don't rush into anything before you're ready

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  • bananaface

    It's completely normal to worry. But I wouldn't rely on porn for answers, it'll probably just confuse you more.

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    • OnlyTheTruth

      I agree... I have always said porn rotts your brain..

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  • diddlyo

    Well, you never know until you try ;) im not married but sex gets better after a few tries from my perspective because of the knowledge and experience gained from each time. Explore yourself lol learn about what satisfies you. What worried me was if it would change the relationship which it did. I became more needy, insecure, moody and throughout time we found ourselves less content. I should have followed my gut but i have no regrets, learned from it all!

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  • MLC

    I'd normally say yes this is normal, but the way you look at sex is just outrageous.

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  • Its normal. These last few years, i kept coming close to the real thing but i always chickened out becuz i was nervous as hell. I was also paranoid something wud go wrong like not knowin where to put it and gettin stuck in that awkward position. Or not puttin the condom on right. Even after i started, i would be shaking like mad after sex becuz i cudnt get the nervousness to go away. But i got over it. Sometimes i still shake but it's not everytime. So yea, it's normal to be nervous. Just wait til you're ready and you'll be fine. Safe sex is great sex*. Good luck with anything.

    *this is not a proven fact, more of a preferred opinion. { :

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    • samson_bowbarrow

      thank you very much, really apprecated.

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  • samson_bowbarrow

    in my opinion, wait for marriage. that's the way to go.

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  • Ibelievethis

    Of course it's normal to be nerveous as it is the fear of the unknown and do not have sex until you're ready. While you apprehesion is natural sex is also natural, too x

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  • Moss_Noble

    if I particularly like the girl I still get nervous now, after 7 years of active sexual relationships. it's much easier than you've built up in your mind though, just try to take it slow and not be too creative. especially don't focus on how they do it in porn movies, that's definitely not how it's down well in real life - it's much better to kiss more, her lips, neck, breasts, stomach, anywhere really but don't focus on an area for too long or else she might think you're setting up camp ;)

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  • yes normal because its just something uve never done before

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  • Zededd

    i think i have a unique take on this... i worked in porn for years and i was a virgin! (means i held the camera and kept my clothes on)
    YES, it looks strange as hell! that looks like it hurts. OOOH! that's not right and "jesus, what are you doing to that poor woman" came to mind my first week there...
    but, sadly, that is how it's meant to go.
    i am most certainly not a virgin and after a few tries, sex is FANTASTIC! it feels nice, causes a massive rush of endorphines and can be excellent exersize and stress relief...
    even if it does look strange...
    it's ok to be scared. but it's normal and, although it may hurt a little the first time... it will feel better in time...

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    • OnlyTheTruth

      * I consider sex to be an excellent choice of exercise..

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      • Austalien

        same with me

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  • stonecutters93

    Completely normal, but I guess that's why practice makes perfect.

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  • CrazyBerii

    It's normal.
    It just depends on your instincts. (:

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  • itsbabyrina

    It is normal. Like I would always ask my friends how they could be able to do that? And one day me and my boyfriend did it.. It feels great. It's just one of those "in the moment" things.. When you come close to having sex, your boyfriend should know how to do things.. Or wear to put it in. So don't get nervous or stress about this.. Because you'll find the one you wanna be with and be open enough to, and be careless of your body with him.. to have sex with him. Just be yourself. The time will come!

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    • I"m a guy who likes girls

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