Is it normal to be misjudged?

I would say that if your immaturity is over shadowing your maturity then its not a good thing. Things that you may feel that is a slight boo-boo may not be for someone else and taking things seriously will also help to.

Wow, me too. Like Ldizzy said, lots of times people don't tell me things because they think I might react badly or because I seem unapproachable-which really isn't based on any kind of truth, people who know me know I'm very, very understanding and non-judgemental. And like dappled said, people always think kindness or caring means that there's some ill intentions behind it!! I think it's THEM, not me, maybe their experiences with less than honest people have made them suspicious.

What's worse is when a dishonest person gets favored over an honest person. That's very hurtful. Or when a dishonest person blames an innocent person for something...maddening!!

I have a very dishonest person in my life, my MIL. She is a downright despicable person, she will lie, cheat and steal and doesn't care who gets hurt. She successfully pinned a workplace theft that she pulled off (in the 10's of thousands) on a co-worker. She got caught doing it again later and they were able to sort it out thankfully, but wow. How despicable!! How can someone do that? She had no qualms about it either. She still denied it too after she was busted, she never completely admits wrongdoing nor does she apologize for anything. Sad thing is, is she's quite good at what she does, she has the appearance of a nice little harmless older lady and boy does she work that image!!

I kinda have this same problem. My friend/coworker was keeping something(information) from me for months, I was kinda upset that I was the last person to know, and I found out the information through another coworker who she didn't even like. So I had to tell her about it, to see if the rumor was true. When I approached her about it, to see if it was really true, she told me that she was afraid to tell me, because she wasn't sure how I would react. It kinda made me feel sad, and like I wasn't worthy enough, and that she wasn't telling me because she didn't trust me, or thought that I would've judged her right away. She was like, "Sorry, I didn't tell you because I figured you wouldn't take it very well, and that you would see me differently." I felt horrible. I was like, "No, I would still see you as a human being. It wouldn't change anything."

It just made me feel sad that she had the impression of me as being the type of person who wouldn't be accepting of her, and that she had to hide something from me out of the fear of how I would react. I just never knew that people saw me that way. I know sometimes I unintentionally portray myself to be differently then who I really am, but shit! I thought, if anything, she would trust me, knowing that I would never think of her any less if I knew her secret. I certainly wouldn't tell anyone either.

Same problem, different reason. If I do something nice and there's no obvious reason for doing it, people think I'm plotting something. When I was 18, I was talking to my sister and suggested we should offer to pay a little more rent to our parents. She couldn't understand why anyone would wilfully give away money and, to this day, she thinks there's some trick I pulled to somehow get out of paying as much.

If you're clever, hide as much of that as you can too. Because clever people obviously only use their powers for evil. No clever person could actually be nice!