It's not that, if a guy approached another guy as just a "what's up buddy" sorta thing and got the reaction described above, most guys would respond with "what's your problem asshole?" So it makes sense he's giving the girl a similar reaction. It doesn't cost anything to be civil. How would you feel if a guy made you feel like an idiot when you just tried talking to them?
Stating your lack of interest AND still getting constantly harassed is a different story.
Of course it's best to be civil but that's why the "fuck you bitch" response isn't warranted. If someone is impolite, just move on because they don't owe you anything.
I am usually polite to guys who approach me if they're not dicks about it and let me leave. But sometimes there is too much of it in one night, to the point that it's scary. So I might become dismissive right away to the next person who speaks to me or my friends. I've met plenty of lovely guys out drinking but I've had enough unsettling incidents to know when to be firm and trust gut feelings.
I understand what you're saying, but it's still a lame complaint. Being approached in a scary way is one thing, being approached "too much" in one night doesn't make much sense to me. Maybe its cause I'm a guy that I don't understand this.
I'm not saying you shouldn't feel creeped out by someone who is a creep. But just getting attention from the opposite sex isn't a bad thing. Plenty of people wish they could get that.
This attitude is more and more why I don't bother really talking to women.
I hope I'm not coming across as a man-hating bitch. Believe me, I love male company.
I'm just trying to explain (albeit badly) why a woman might dismiss a guy right off the bat. I've had experiences where aggressive drunks think I've led them on just because I've engaged in conversation. Some people may feel they have to be a little cold because they're worried they won't be able to get rid of someone.
As for the "too much" thing, it wasn't a great example and it's not something that happens all the time. I'd like to think I can usually tell whether someone is just being friendly or if they're after sex. If there's too much of the latter, I might start to get short with people.
The OP sounds like a guy who should be avoided but I am genuinely sorry if people like myself make you feel like you can't talk to women. Unfortunately a lot of creeps do hang out at bars and I've become a bit too wary.
Is it normal to be mad when a girl rejects you?
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It's not that, if a guy approached another guy as just a "what's up buddy" sorta thing and got the reaction described above, most guys would respond with "what's your problem asshole?" So it makes sense he's giving the girl a similar reaction. It doesn't cost anything to be civil. How would you feel if a guy made you feel like an idiot when you just tried talking to them?
Stating your lack of interest AND still getting constantly harassed is a different story.
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Of course it's best to be civil but that's why the "fuck you bitch" response isn't warranted. If someone is impolite, just move on because they don't owe you anything.
I am usually polite to guys who approach me if they're not dicks about it and let me leave. But sometimes there is too much of it in one night, to the point that it's scary. So I might become dismissive right away to the next person who speaks to me or my friends. I've met plenty of lovely guys out drinking but I've had enough unsettling incidents to know when to be firm and trust gut feelings.
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I understand what you're saying, but it's still a lame complaint. Being approached in a scary way is one thing, being approached "too much" in one night doesn't make much sense to me. Maybe its cause I'm a guy that I don't understand this.
I'm not saying you shouldn't feel creeped out by someone who is a creep. But just getting attention from the opposite sex isn't a bad thing. Plenty of people wish they could get that.
This attitude is more and more why I don't bother really talking to women.
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I hope I'm not coming across as a man-hating bitch. Believe me, I love male company.
I'm just trying to explain (albeit badly) why a woman might dismiss a guy right off the bat. I've had experiences where aggressive drunks think I've led them on just because I've engaged in conversation. Some people may feel they have to be a little cold because they're worried they won't be able to get rid of someone.
As for the "too much" thing, it wasn't a great example and it's not something that happens all the time. I'd like to think I can usually tell whether someone is just being friendly or if they're after sex. If there's too much of the latter, I might start to get short with people.
The OP sounds like a guy who should be avoided but I am genuinely sorry if people like myself make you feel like you can't talk to women. Unfortunately a lot of creeps do hang out at bars and I've become a bit too wary.
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No, I definitely understand it much better now. Thanks for explaining it more thoroughly.
As it happens I do agree with you, especially this last explanation.
Thank you djpatties.