Is it normal to be mad when a girl rejects you?

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I'm finding that when I go out to bars that the women are not as open to meeting guys or dancing with them. They tend to dance amongst themselves and I've had situations where another girl hopped in and spoke for her friend. Last night I told the girl I wasn't talking to her and to mind her fucking business. I even gave her the middle finger. Then I walked off. I got tired of always being nice and not saying anything back so the fire was unleashed!

Today I saw a girl who I found was attractive and flirtatiously asked her how she was doing. She ignored me. I was so mad and yelled "Fuck you bitch". Is it normal to do this?

Also my anger is a direct reflection of the frustration I am experiencing due to not having sex since 2009. I'm 25 and feel like a loser with no game. I feel depressed.

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  • Shoefish
    8 years ago

    Some girls really do go out just to have fun with their friends. I can't tell you how frustrating it is to be constantly harassed by random guys. Especially guys who act like you owe them something.

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      It's not that, if a guy approached another guy as just a "what's up buddy" sorta thing and got the reaction described above, most guys would respond with "what's your problem asshole?" So it makes sense he's giving the girl a similar reaction. It doesn't cost anything to be civil. How would you feel if a guy made you feel like an idiot when you just tried talking to them?

      Stating your lack of interest AND still getting constantly harassed is a different story.

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      • Shoefish
        8 years ago

        Of course it's best to be civil but that's why the "fuck you bitch" response isn't warranted. If someone is impolite, just move on because they don't owe you anything.

        I am usually polite to guys who approach me if they're not dicks about it and let me leave. But sometimes there is too much of it in one night, to the point that it's scary. So I might become dismissive right away to the next person who speaks to me or my friends. I've met plenty of lovely guys out drinking but I've had enough unsettling incidents to know when to be firm and trust gut feelings.

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        • [Old Memory]
          8 years ago

          I understand what you're saying, but it's still a lame complaint. Being approached in a scary way is one thing, being approached "too much" in one night doesn't make much sense to me. Maybe its cause I'm a guy that I don't understand this.

          I'm not saying you shouldn't feel creeped out by someone who is a creep. But just getting attention from the opposite sex isn't a bad thing. Plenty of people wish they could get that.

          This attitude is more and more why I don't bother really talking to women.

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          • Shoefish
            8 years ago

            I hope I'm not coming across as a man-hating bitch. Believe me, I love male company.

            I'm just trying to explain (albeit badly) why a woman might dismiss a guy right off the bat. I've had experiences where aggressive drunks think I've led them on just because I've engaged in conversation. Some people may feel they have to be a little cold because they're worried they won't be able to get rid of someone.

            As for the "too much" thing, it wasn't a great example and it's not something that happens all the time. I'd like to think I can usually tell whether someone is just being friendly or if they're after sex. If there's too much of the latter, I might start to get short with people.

            The OP sounds like a guy who should be avoided but I am genuinely sorry if people like myself make you feel like you can't talk to women. Unfortunately a lot of creeps do hang out at bars and I've become a bit too wary.

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            • [Old Memory]
              8 years ago

              No, I definitely understand it much better now. Thanks for explaining it more thoroughly.

              As it happens I do agree with you, especially this last explanation.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        Thank you djpatties.

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  • Darkoil
    8 years ago

    If you're trying to chat random girls up you need to be moderately good looking, confident and funny. Going up to a random girl and asking how she is doing is pathetic. I will always stand by the best way to open with a random girl is to give her a compliment, bitches love that shit.

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      Be open minded to the idea that some approaches will work for some while not for others. You saying that asking how a girl is doing is pathetic is condescending and judgmental. It's all about how you say it and my confidence will take me far.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        And just how would YOU know? You are a self proclaimed failure at picking up girls, so obviously YOU are the last person who should be giving advice here!

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      And by the way I'm very good looking.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        I'm guessing the girls you hit on don't think so.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Nobody likes a sore loser. Keep doing what you're doing and everyone will think you're a major league head case if they don't already.

    The poor chick wasn't into you, so her friend spoke up for her, then you were rude and hateful to her friend. Then you see the poor girl again and act rude and hateful toward her. Can't you take a hint? She wasn't into you from the start so why the hell would she be into you after you disrespected her friend? You sound like a creepy ass stalker type of person in dire need of professional help!

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      First and foremost you need to read before you respond to someone's post. KEYWORDS: last night, today. If I saw the same girl from the bar the night before I would've mentioned that. I said TODAY I saw a girl (not the same one). Second of all I am by no means a creepy ass stalker as you suggest. Stalking would be if I continuously went up to the same girl in the bar trying to dance with her. I gave her the middle finger and kept it moving. And as for professional help I am not in need of it. You my dear are in need of PROFESSIONAL LITERACY help. Have a great day and look into reading comprehension classes.

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  • Freedom_
    8 years ago

    Maybe they can sense your anger issues.

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      Honestly, when someone gets so dramatic and hateful eventually someone is going to take a cell phone video of said person then post it on YouTube.
      >:-D

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Rejection is tough. In a perfect world, our first attempts would garner great results, but that is not the case. Try to remember that you're not everyone's "cup of tea", but don't give up hope. To lash out will only escalate the frustration and might even get you in trouble.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Nobody likes rejection.
    Don't you think if you haven't had sex since 2009 that perhaps it's you who has a problem, not the girls? Honestly, don't you think you should look at yourself and try to figure out why you turn off every girl you try talk to? Blaming them, and getting mad at them, will only insure that you won't get laid until 2019!

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    • [Old Memory]
      8 years ago

      I think you need to take a good look at yourself and check yourself because your tone is condescending. And if your aim is to provide feedback to people's posts then you're not doing a good job. You honestly need to be mindful of how you respond to a person's post because he or she will not take your advice if you come off as rude. And for the record I haven't turned every single girl off. I have had nights when I've got numbers thank you very much.

      I look in the mirror every day and I like what I see. Can you say the same? (WHAT YOU GIVE IS WHAT U GET)

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Wow, who the fuck is being condescending?
        I think I made a pretty valid point and I don't care how you take it, nor do I give a flying fuck what YOU think.
        If you are the OP then YOU are the one with a problem, not me; I get laid quite often.
        If you aren't then I haven't asked YOU for a damned thing, if I remember rightly, so I should get nothing from you, including all the above hogwash. Keep your silly advice to yourself, because I really don't need it.
        Look closer in the mirror, because you may like what you see, but apparently girls don't!

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        • [Old Memory]
          8 years ago

          Yeah with a name like gypsy sailor I can tell you're a loser. Stop lying. What girl would fuck a gypsy sailor? A tranny! Please take your tired ass off of my page u dumb ass.

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          • thegypsysailor
            8 years ago

            OMG, you ARE the OP, rotflmao.
            You haven't been laid since 2009 and I'm the loser? rotflmao, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.
            "I look in the mirror every day and I like what I see." Obviously no girl has, since 2009 anyway. And you have the audacity to call ME a loser? rotflmao, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. That is really choice; thanks for the laugh, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.

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            • [Old Memory]
              8 years ago

              You say all this shit over the internet but you would never have the guts to say this to my face! Get the fuck off my page u bitch

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  • ely02mercado
    8 years ago

    You are soooooo pathetic ... Seriously, seriously pathetic ..you are sooo rude and you don't know how to approach someone . Lacking of SEX ISN'T an EXCUSE! There are many people out there who are celibate but are never being RUDE as you are! And why did you get angry with her friend who was just speaking up for her? Did they know you? For them YOU are just a random man who was so desperate. Hahaha! Depressed? You are not depressed!! You are just sexually frustrated . Depression are for people who suffered way too much for them . My father died an my lover is dying but I ain't depressed yet so why are you? You are NOT depressed.
    You know what? If you want to have sex then you should approach a hooker not some random chicks who are not one.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    You're wrong to react that way. Rejection sucks, but sounds like you're taking it too harshly, and taking your anger out on them isn't helping. Usually, you can tell if a girl is interested right away by their body language. If she doesn't seem interested it's best to end the conversation right there and walk away.

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  • NathanScott
    8 years ago

    I don't know if this will help but i go clubbing just to have a drink with my bro's and dancing...never to pick up chicks.Funny enough in the midst of all that partying and hanging out i always find myself chating with a hot piece who i usualy end up home with depending on if there was chemistry.
    I think the key here is to be confident, and also not to expect anything.Keep an open mind

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    so what if you are depressed?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    If sex is that important and you are that sexual frustrated you should look into hiring an escort. You're paying for drinks and other bullshit anyway so why not just pay all the way and remove the uncertainty.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    it's normal to feel disappointed or frustrated with many failed attempts but ... definitely not to lash out on women just because they don't give you a chance . The girl can have so many different reasons why she doesn't want to accept your offer .. you are also not projecting a very good image by doing this , it says something about your character .. I am sure they are glad they said no after witnessing this behaviour . I would say just keep cool , keep trying .. be nice and be genuine . If you are this desperate then the only thing I could suggest is hiring an escort for the sex because you seem a little too worked up about it

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    I'm gonna say it again. Women can smell desperation from a mile off, like a shark wih a drop of blood. And they'll rip you apart like one if u aren't careful. You are probably coming on way too strong or in a really awkward manner that automatically puts them on guard. I'd suggest you calm the fuck down and stop yelling at people in the club or bar for a start. And yeah, I know how annoying it is when ur trying to get at a girl and her friends are running interference like its a football play. You can be assertive and still be polite and charming.

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  • Thexoutcast
    8 years ago

    I kinda understand though. I'm a female and I find it rude when another female just flat out ignores a guy when complimenting her. I don't like the attitudes that most chicks have.

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