No-one would ever believe me but ... my husband would love all women banned from the bar and (thinks) he would like me barefoot and in the kitchen. However, that's not my style so it was either put up or shut up (for him). I'm fiercely independent and contrary so I can't have anyone telling me what to do or not to do. So maybe your bf has told you that's what he thinks he wants but in reality he's proving to you that he hasn't really thought this out. He's not rushing home to his ideal woman - so maybe that ideal woman has become a boring doormat to him?! Just an idea!
You are younger pet, and more naive than I ever was but you have explained more fully your anxiety when you explain that he has an alcohol problem. As you are unable to cure him, I'd start to live my life exactly the way I want and not by his rules anymore. That might just be enough to smarten him up and realise what he might lose.
You are a gem coz thousands of us would never even get involved with a guy that had an addiction of any sort.
I hope it works out for you but if you're being neglected / abused in the future, show him the door and make him beg his way back into your affections.
He knows you can do much better than him which is why he wants you 'safely tucked away at home'.
Live your young life to the full and laugh every day!!
is it normal to be mad if my boyfriend comes home late?
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No-one would ever believe me but ... my husband would love all women banned from the bar and (thinks) he would like me barefoot and in the kitchen. However, that's not my style so it was either put up or shut up (for him). I'm fiercely independent and contrary so I can't have anyone telling me what to do or not to do. So maybe your bf has told you that's what he thinks he wants but in reality he's proving to you that he hasn't really thought this out. He's not rushing home to his ideal woman - so maybe that ideal woman has become a boring doormat to him?! Just an idea!
You are younger pet, and more naive than I ever was but you have explained more fully your anxiety when you explain that he has an alcohol problem. As you are unable to cure him, I'd start to live my life exactly the way I want and not by his rules anymore. That might just be enough to smarten him up and realise what he might lose.
You are a gem coz thousands of us would never even get involved with a guy that had an addiction of any sort.
I hope it works out for you but if you're being neglected / abused in the future, show him the door and make him beg his way back into your affections.
He knows you can do much better than him which is why he wants you 'safely tucked away at home'.
Live your young life to the full and laugh every day!!