Actually I do live in the UK - N. Ireland to be precise so you can call it a bar or a pub! OK so you have tickets on yourself that you are a great catch but you posted this coz you have an issue with anger / possessiveness.
How long have you been in this relationship? I assume it's not too long as he's still doing it his way and you're still annoyed.
Anyway, although he might like coming home to a domestic goddess it's not the be all and end all for men. Like all others, he values the companionship of other men - or even people who are good fun.
Just ask how often you two laugh together, will you laugh when he gets in?
No! That's why he's not rushing.
A man will rush anywhere he's likely to have a laugh with his mates. He can always reheat his dinner or have sex with you a few hours later than predicted.
Lighten up!!
I don't cook or clean and my husband has rushed home for over 23 years!! But I see my job as to run a happy home full of laughter - not many men get that on a daily basis. Most women nag them to death - and you don't want him to see you as his mother!!
i dont want him to see me as his mother but weve been together for over a year and we laid out the way we were in relationships. he want a woman barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen...and im ok with that to an extent.our lives are probably different im way younger than you i can guarentee that never been married no kid and my man has an alcohol problem...so its completely different i wouldnt expect u to understand he has it made...and i do need to change up alil with certain things but he needs to realize what hes giot til its gone..but so do i right?
No-one would ever believe me but ... my husband would love all women banned from the bar and (thinks) he would like me barefoot and in the kitchen. However, that's not my style so it was either put up or shut up (for him). I'm fiercely independent and contrary so I can't have anyone telling me what to do or not to do. So maybe your bf has told you that's what he thinks he wants but in reality he's proving to you that he hasn't really thought this out. He's not rushing home to his ideal woman - so maybe that ideal woman has become a boring doormat to him?! Just an idea!
You are younger pet, and more naive than I ever was but you have explained more fully your anxiety when you explain that he has an alcohol problem. As you are unable to cure him, I'd start to live my life exactly the way I want and not by his rules anymore. That might just be enough to smarten him up and realise what he might lose.
You are a gem coz thousands of us would never even get involved with a guy that had an addiction of any sort.
I hope it works out for you but if you're being neglected / abused in the future, show him the door and make him beg his way back into your affections.
He knows you can do much better than him which is why he wants you 'safely tucked away at home'.
Live your young life to the full and laugh every day!!
is it normal to be mad if my boyfriend comes home late?
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Actually I do live in the UK - N. Ireland to be precise so you can call it a bar or a pub! OK so you have tickets on yourself that you are a great catch but you posted this coz you have an issue with anger / possessiveness.
How long have you been in this relationship? I assume it's not too long as he's still doing it his way and you're still annoyed.
Anyway, although he might like coming home to a domestic goddess it's not the be all and end all for men. Like all others, he values the companionship of other men - or even people who are good fun.
Just ask how often you two laugh together, will you laugh when he gets in?
No! That's why he's not rushing.
A man will rush anywhere he's likely to have a laugh with his mates. He can always reheat his dinner or have sex with you a few hours later than predicted.
Lighten up!!
I don't cook or clean and my husband has rushed home for over 23 years!! But I see my job as to run a happy home full of laughter - not many men get that on a daily basis. Most women nag them to death - and you don't want him to see you as his mother!!
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i dont want him to see me as his mother but weve been together for over a year and we laid out the way we were in relationships. he want a woman barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen...and im ok with that to an extent.our lives are probably different im way younger than you i can guarentee that never been married no kid and my man has an alcohol problem...so its completely different i wouldnt expect u to understand he has it made...and i do need to change up alil with certain things but he needs to realize what hes giot til its gone..but so do i right?
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No-one would ever believe me but ... my husband would love all women banned from the bar and (thinks) he would like me barefoot and in the kitchen. However, that's not my style so it was either put up or shut up (for him). I'm fiercely independent and contrary so I can't have anyone telling me what to do or not to do. So maybe your bf has told you that's what he thinks he wants but in reality he's proving to you that he hasn't really thought this out. He's not rushing home to his ideal woman - so maybe that ideal woman has become a boring doormat to him?! Just an idea!
You are younger pet, and more naive than I ever was but you have explained more fully your anxiety when you explain that he has an alcohol problem. As you are unable to cure him, I'd start to live my life exactly the way I want and not by his rules anymore. That might just be enough to smarten him up and realise what he might lose.
You are a gem coz thousands of us would never even get involved with a guy that had an addiction of any sort.
I hope it works out for you but if you're being neglected / abused in the future, show him the door and make him beg his way back into your affections.
He knows you can do much better than him which is why he wants you 'safely tucked away at home'.
Live your young life to the full and laugh every day!!