Is it normal to be jealous of your partner's masturbatory habits?
My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for over four years now. Seven months ago we decided to move in together and thus get to know eachother better, because our long distance relationship wasn't working.
I am a very sexual being. There was this point in our relationship were we had sex 3 times a day. I get that as you get older it goes down hill, however, once a day shouldnt be too much to ask for.
Every morning he takes his laptop into the bathroom and gives it a little tug. Sometimes he even uses cock rings to of course make it even more pleasureable.
Is it abnormal for me to think that masturbation should be a last resort? If I am here and damn sexy I should say, why not get your rocks off on me. I get that sometimes you need something different but that is what fantasy and role play is for. I get jealous that I get none, while he gets his glorious orgasm on.
Partly it makes me feel less sexy, although he says that masturbation isnt sexual its for the tension release. He even said that sometimes when he's looking at some girls online they remind him of me and he ends up thinking of me... but I think he was trying to make me feel better. And I think though once you slide that cock ring on it becomes about pleasure not about tension.
I think that he is selfish for meeting only his sexual needs and desires and not mine, because once he gets off to internet porn, hes good for the day.
I have tensions too, and needs that he doesnt meet because he takes care of his own first.
I do not think it is out of line for me to be jealous. But I am.
Help me out. I dont know what to do or say. I've tried approaching the subject but he says I have no right to tell him how or when to masturbate. He offered to buy me a toy which gets the job done, but I need physical contact.
It truly pisses me off when I wake up and walk by the bathroom and hear his wanking, and know that I will not be getting any.
I even left him a sticky on his laptop one day asking him to try to make love to me before he jacked off.. and he just threw it away and went on his way as I lay in bed in my lingerie waiting and then knowing that its someone elses tits he's pretending to come on.