Is it normal to be in love with your best friends' girl?

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I dated this girl about 8 years ago. She was 16 and I was a few years older. While the relationship didn't last long, the friendship has and she is quite possibly one of the best friends I have. I met her current boyfriend through her and he and I are just as good of friends as she and I are. They have been together for seven years.

The problem is this: I love everything about this girl. We know so much about each other, have so much fun together, and have even talked about a future together if her and her boyfriend ever split. I always want to remain at least her friend, but I can't help myself from wanting more. What should I do?

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  • starburtsgrin
    13 years ago | pl

    yea, but you have to put those feelings away if you value them as friends. I have a feeling my boyfriends best friend has feelings for me but he always tells himself and my boyfriend that he would never act on it because he loves him too much as a friend to hurt him and he appreciates my friendship too. what is your priority i guess...

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  • uncommon1
    13 years ago | pl

    @Bells: Good point. I'm afraid that opening up to her could be potentially disastrous to our friendship. When we first dated, I knew that it wouldn't be long-term: we were at completely different places in our lives! Now that the playing field is equal, I believe it would be a fantastic relationship.

    @candy8: I think Bells advice to me is good advice for you: open up to him. If your best friend is truly that, she will understand.

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  • candy8
    13 years ago | pl

    I mean't pisses

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  • candy8
    13 years ago | pl

    It's normal to me but not these other bitches. I have a crush on my bff's crush, but we are both friends with him, and the prob is that she has a better relationship with him an I'm sooo jelouse but I've known him longer I hate it soo much it posses me off sometimes.

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  • Bells
    13 years ago | pl

    If you know her like no one in the world as so does she about you, and she's with him, there's something wrong, right? She doesnt have romantic feelings for you, or she hasnt seen it.
    I think you should open up with her. Tell her how you feel, because if she's a nice girl, she wont play games. Either she will be with you, or she will choose to stay with her bf, and then you will be able to let yourself move on.

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  • hannahj03
    13 years ago | pl

    Haven't you heard the song "my best friends girl" by the cars?

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  • uncommon1
    13 years ago | pl

    True cz, but no moving on because doing so would imply there was a start to something. In this instance, we have strictly been friends.

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  • cz.
    13 years ago | pl

    Move on dude...
    There's something wrong with her talking bout the future stuff while she's in realtionship...

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