While it's not exactly "normal", it's not uncommon for people to retreat into the comfort zone of some innerworld of their own creation (or in your case arms of a man that exists only for you). He is your "happy place" so to speak.
I don't know what to recommand really. On one hand I don't like therapists - since I don't believe in the idea that there is a "right way" to think or feel. I believe that your own personal thoughts and ideals are a big part of who you are, and I dislike the idea of people twisting and maniplutating your mind, changing essentially who you are with either mind-altering words or drugs.
But on the other hand, if it is affecting you so much that you feel you might be subconciously underminding your real relationships...
I really don't know. It's just my personal opinion, but I don't believe you need "healing" like you say. I also believe that if you do meet someone and fall in love later on, then it doesn't matter how you feel for your imaginary friend. If that love strong enough to be worthwhile, if that love is real, then it will co-exist or even overcome your feelings for your imaginary friend. And if your imaginary friend have feelings for you too then he will understand, and will encourage your real world relationship. He will want you to be happy.
Reality is subjective anyways - if your imaginary friend is real to you, then who cares if he's not real to the people around you? What makes him less "real" than all the random strangers on the streets, and all the millions of people that you never see or talk to around the world, on the net?
Then again I'm probably biased. I've had this imaginary friend for years - an imaginary woman that I created years ago. She and both knows she is a creation of my mind, and she isn't "real". But like I said reality is subjective. She might not be able to eat my food or leave hairs in my shower, but that doesn't make our conversations, the friendship, the companionship, and the comfort she gives me when I'm down any less real.
Reality is subjective anyways - if your imaginary friend is real to you, then who cares if he's not real to the people around you? What makes him less "real" than all the random strangers on the streets, and all the millions of people that you never see or talk to around the world, on the net?....
i so loved your reply :) i want to talk to you maybe.
Reality is subjective anyways - if your imaginary friend is real to you, then who cares if he's not real to the people around you? What makes him less "real" than all the random strangers on the streets, and all the millions of people that you never see or talk to around the world, on the net?....
i so loved your reply :) i want to talk to you maybe.
While I disagree with your statement that psychiatric medications "change who you are" (since I have been on them for several years and have had my quality of life drastically improved because of them), I agree completely with everything else you said, esp. about the subjectivity of reality. Hell, I even have my own imaginary friends - the most significant of which is my imaginary fraternal twin sister.
While this is out of topic.. hey you're back! or I just missed your comments on recent stories.
I think you should forget your imaginary love but I think the reasons why you love him can lead to finding a real person to love. Like if your imaginary love has a few qualities you like and you can try to find them in someone real. Maybe you'll need help from a professional or pills but I hope you can just push it aside and search for things you like in someone real.
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While it's not exactly "normal", it's not uncommon for people to retreat into the comfort zone of some innerworld of their own creation (or in your case arms of a man that exists only for you). He is your "happy place" so to speak.
I don't know what to recommand really. On one hand I don't like therapists - since I don't believe in the idea that there is a "right way" to think or feel. I believe that your own personal thoughts and ideals are a big part of who you are, and I dislike the idea of people twisting and maniplutating your mind, changing essentially who you are with either mind-altering words or drugs.
But on the other hand, if it is affecting you so much that you feel you might be subconciously underminding your real relationships...
I really don't know. It's just my personal opinion, but I don't believe you need "healing" like you say. I also believe that if you do meet someone and fall in love later on, then it doesn't matter how you feel for your imaginary friend. If that love strong enough to be worthwhile, if that love is real, then it will co-exist or even overcome your feelings for your imaginary friend. And if your imaginary friend have feelings for you too then he will understand, and will encourage your real world relationship. He will want you to be happy.
Reality is subjective anyways - if your imaginary friend is real to you, then who cares if he's not real to the people around you? What makes him less "real" than all the random strangers on the streets, and all the millions of people that you never see or talk to around the world, on the net?
Then again I'm probably biased. I've had this imaginary friend for years - an imaginary woman that I created years ago. She and both knows she is a creation of my mind, and she isn't "real". But like I said reality is subjective. She might not be able to eat my food or leave hairs in my shower, but that doesn't make our conversations, the friendship, the companionship, and the comfort she gives me when I'm down any less real.
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Reality is subjective anyways - if your imaginary friend is real to you, then who cares if he's not real to the people around you? What makes him less "real" than all the random strangers on the streets, and all the millions of people that you never see or talk to around the world, on the net?....
i so loved your reply :) i want to talk to you maybe.
Reality is subjective anyways - if your imaginary friend is real to you, then who cares if he's not real to the people around you? What makes him less "real" than all the random strangers on the streets, and all the millions of people that you never see or talk to around the world, on the net?....
i so loved your reply :) i want to talk to you maybe.
While I disagree with your statement that psychiatric medications "change who you are" (since I have been on them for several years and have had my quality of life drastically improved because of them), I agree completely with everything else you said, esp. about the subjectivity of reality. Hell, I even have my own imaginary friends - the most significant of which is my imaginary fraternal twin sister.
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While this is out of topic.. hey you're back! or I just missed your comments on recent stories.
I think you should forget your imaginary love but I think the reasons why you love him can lead to finding a real person to love. Like if your imaginary love has a few qualities you like and you can try to find them in someone real. Maybe you'll need help from a professional or pills but I hope you can just push it aside and search for things you like in someone real.