It is very normal to be infatuated with someone after only knowing them for a short while.
Rant: (Not a personal attack against the OP, just an observation that frustrates me)
Why is it that this is the way people seem to like each other? I see this sort of thing happen a lot. People talk for very short instances and develop a superficial relationship and what you see on the surface is what catches your infatuation. You don't "love" the person's flaws, no you "love" them at their best. That's not the way it's suppose, and if it is then it shouldn't be. I feel that friendships aren't really valued anymore, like actually getting to know a person. Talking about what makes you sad, what gives you purpose, etc. I rarely see relationships develop this way, but the one's that I have seen develop this way (and yes I'm referring to people who have left the eponymous friend-zone) turn out very well. It just frustrates me that this is the way most people seem to like each other, small talk. Talking to a person for a short while and seeing what they are like on the surface. The only way you'll tolerate the flaws is if they are good looking. If your personality is great, that is fine, but it won't do you much good if your body and face isn't that attractive. I'm not saying that I haven't seen nice people find love (and I'm not referring to the blokes who are nice to women only to insult them when denied sex or put in the friend-zone). I am referring to the decent human beings in this world, men and women, who have so much to offer a person, aside from their looks. They have interesting conversations, they have an insightful view of the world, perhaps sometimes it may be pessimistic, but they will always be loyal and try to help you when they can. Why do these people have to wait till so later on in life to be valued? There's more to people than just their surface, and what's beneath that is probably a beautiful person, flawed, but in their own way beautiful. And that person, that imperfect human, is the one who you should learn to love, not the one on the surface.
Well I was friends with my boyfriend for 2 years before we were together and the relationship was literally started by him randomly saying "I want to fuck you" in the middle of a typed Skype conversation, it just slowly developed from there.
Is it normal to be in love with someone I barely know?
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It is very normal to be infatuated with someone after only knowing them for a short while.
Rant: (Not a personal attack against the OP, just an observation that frustrates me)
Why is it that this is the way people seem to like each other? I see this sort of thing happen a lot. People talk for very short instances and develop a superficial relationship and what you see on the surface is what catches your infatuation. You don't "love" the person's flaws, no you "love" them at their best. That's not the way it's suppose, and if it is then it shouldn't be. I feel that friendships aren't really valued anymore, like actually getting to know a person. Talking about what makes you sad, what gives you purpose, etc. I rarely see relationships develop this way, but the one's that I have seen develop this way (and yes I'm referring to people who have left the eponymous friend-zone) turn out very well. It just frustrates me that this is the way most people seem to like each other, small talk. Talking to a person for a short while and seeing what they are like on the surface. The only way you'll tolerate the flaws is if they are good looking. If your personality is great, that is fine, but it won't do you much good if your body and face isn't that attractive. I'm not saying that I haven't seen nice people find love (and I'm not referring to the blokes who are nice to women only to insult them when denied sex or put in the friend-zone). I am referring to the decent human beings in this world, men and women, who have so much to offer a person, aside from their looks. They have interesting conversations, they have an insightful view of the world, perhaps sometimes it may be pessimistic, but they will always be loyal and try to help you when they can. Why do these people have to wait till so later on in life to be valued? There's more to people than just their surface, and what's beneath that is probably a beautiful person, flawed, but in their own way beautiful. And that person, that imperfect human, is the one who you should learn to love, not the one on the surface.
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Well I was friends with my boyfriend for 2 years before we were together and the relationship was literally started by him randomly saying "I want to fuck you" in the middle of a typed Skype conversation, it just slowly developed from there.
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That's...direct. But at least you had 2yrs to get to know the guy.