Is it normal to be in love with my ex after 2 years

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I had been married for 15 years. Over the years, he continuously pulled away from me. The relationship had been bad for many years. I know that I done everything one could possibly do to keep us together. In the end, he threw me out like trash. Nothing I did was ever good enough. I even learned that he had a full on relationship with someone else the last 3-4 years we were together. He hurt me, He took and took til I was empty. I should hate him and be disgusted with his treatment of me. However, all I can think about is the good times we had. I honestly cannot move on. I've tried, but at the end of day, nobody compares to him. What is wrong with me?? Plz plz someone help me!! I'm at the end of my rope.

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  • e51pegasi
    5 years ago

    Whenever you reminisce about the good times stop & write all the good things, the good times & moments of tenderness you shared with him in a list. Then give it half an hour & then write down in a list all the shitty, soul destroying & vile acts, the manipulation & periods of emotional torment he put you through.

    Pin both lists on your fridge & adjust both lists as you see fit for say a day & then fix them as they are.

    I'm going to go out on a limb here, but something tells me that one of those lists is going to be significantly longer than the other.

    And as a bonus those lists will be a constant reminder of how much of a bastard he really was.

    It's not a lot, but it's a start.

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      Oh, I like that!😁

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    • lordofopinions
      5 years ago

      VERY good advice!!

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  • lain
    5 years ago

    the good times were yours alone not of both,as everything else you extract from that relationship.desires hopes goals etc.im sure if these things mean more to you than himself then if he doesnt help them happen he is not someone you love neither do you love yourself and he of couse has some unbalanced soul or he would be gentle and talk about whats going on.that said you are just lost about yoursefl in him and dependent and adicted to your romantic suplly as well as stuck with relationship concepts etc.stop beating yourself.heal change start again.dont hate him.

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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    90 percent of all divorces are filed by women. so you are going to find a bunch that made the wrong choice. you are one. if he is single he might take you back. did you get fat on him? many women get real fat , i mean huge and it really makes a gut think is this all there is ? they didnt sign up for that.

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    • single39
      5 years ago

      Oddly enough I actually got a lot skinnier.. The relationship he had outside of our marriage was with a girl that weighed at least 60 pds more than me. She never wears makeup. She also wears a baseball cap all the time. His decision clearly wasn't based on looks. It's insulting.

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      • Nickvey
        5 years ago

        he must have told you the reason, were you able to listen ?

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        • single39
          5 years ago

          He is a man a very few words. He never gave a reason. I figured out the four yr affair when our son passed away.

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