I feel really sorry for you. It sounds like your going through a lot.
How are you going to university if you and your family are so broke? I live in the U.S. so i don't know how things work where you are, but here you can get financial aid and public assistance if your enrolled in school. They give you money to pay for classes, books and supplies and whatever is leftover is used for housing, gas money, bills, food etc. Are there programs there like this to help you? Can you go to the student admin. at your school and tell them of your situation and get guidance? They may be able to help with job assistance too. I also know here in the states you can sign up for public housing, food stamps and medical care. Do you have such things there? You might be able to get public assistance and health-care in order to address your depression.
It's unfortunate your family is irresponsible and that you are bearing the weight of all these worries at a young age. But if your able to complete university, then you can get a better, higher paying job and move on from the negativity around you. There's always a way to get through things. Even when you are so overwhelmed and at the end of your rope, there is ALWAYS a way. You need to find a way take care of yourself because it's NOT your responsibility to worry or pay for your parents. They should be taking care of you and ensuring you have what you need to succeed in life. Sounds like it's time for you to cut them loose and make a way for yourself.
As for your job, you need to actively look for another job. You have plenty of time on your hands right now. You could mow yards or wash cars for your neighbors or walk dogs. There are ways to make money until you figure something else out.
I don't know if any of this helps but i hope so. Let me know how your doing
Thank you for your reply I really needed an opinion.
My dad has a taxi job now, and he used to be a wedding photographer. I respect him at least for still trying to work. Meanwhile my Mum doesn't want to work, and keeps making the excuse that no one can look after my 15 year old sister. But she's 15, I think she's capable of staying home alone!
All my mum does now is short courses in random subjects for the past 6 years now, no work just learning.
I'm on HECS -HELP so my uni payments are differed till I get a good job and earn a certain amount of money.
I also have Centerlink payments but I use the money to help pay for food for the family and our internet. And sometimes the bills if my Dad needs help with that.
So I have no money left to get food or uni books and other resources, when I help pay the bills and other house hold expenses.
I even had to sell my old laptop last month to get more money.
I told them of my situation when I first started but they told me to apply for scholarships, but the problem with that is anyone is allowed to apply so you can be rich and get one, and they pick your name randomly out of a draw, its all chance, and I was unlucky and received nothing, while one of my friends got a $20 000 scholarship.
I'll ask about public housing, since I can't take everyone being abusive to each other here. Someone gets into a physical fight every few months, I have at least 3 times now.
I did get job assistance from Centerlink but they just told me to hand out resumes that's it!
I did see a phycologists at my uni but I only saw them once every few weeks, since they're book up. And I always stop seeing them after a few sessions, I don't really know why but I feel like talking about my feelings isn't helping me at all.
And now I already fucked up my semester this year I missed 3 weeks of uni because I was to mentally unstable and suffered from a migrain.
Yeah I think you're right, it's kinda fuck up for a teen to help take care of their family.
Should I try and move out perhaps by seeking housing and rent money from my uni and Centerlink? Maybe they'll help me if I tell them whats really going on in my house.
But I'm scared they might get too involved and call the cops on someone since a 14 year old is there.
If I move stores under a new boss do you think they'll do the same thing to me?
Or maybe I should just go job hunting for a new one.
Okay I won't give up for now.
Kinda fuck up but I told myself if I'm still in the shits when I'm 40, then maybe I should end my life, but I hope it doesn't come to that.
Thank your for your kind and intelligent words, it's nice to know someone still cares about me.
This help me far more than any phycologists I've ever seen.
IIN to be hired by a company, but to be given NO WORK at all?!!!?
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I feel really sorry for you. It sounds like your going through a lot.
How are you going to university if you and your family are so broke? I live in the U.S. so i don't know how things work where you are, but here you can get financial aid and public assistance if your enrolled in school. They give you money to pay for classes, books and supplies and whatever is leftover is used for housing, gas money, bills, food etc. Are there programs there like this to help you? Can you go to the student admin. at your school and tell them of your situation and get guidance? They may be able to help with job assistance too. I also know here in the states you can sign up for public housing, food stamps and medical care. Do you have such things there? You might be able to get public assistance and health-care in order to address your depression.
It's unfortunate your family is irresponsible and that you are bearing the weight of all these worries at a young age. But if your able to complete university, then you can get a better, higher paying job and move on from the negativity around you. There's always a way to get through things. Even when you are so overwhelmed and at the end of your rope, there is ALWAYS a way. You need to find a way take care of yourself because it's NOT your responsibility to worry or pay for your parents. They should be taking care of you and ensuring you have what you need to succeed in life. Sounds like it's time for you to cut them loose and make a way for yourself.
As for your job, you need to actively look for another job. You have plenty of time on your hands right now. You could mow yards or wash cars for your neighbors or walk dogs. There are ways to make money until you figure something else out.
I don't know if any of this helps but i hope so. Let me know how your doing
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Thank you for your reply I really needed an opinion.
My dad has a taxi job now, and he used to be a wedding photographer. I respect him at least for still trying to work. Meanwhile my Mum doesn't want to work, and keeps making the excuse that no one can look after my 15 year old sister. But she's 15, I think she's capable of staying home alone!
All my mum does now is short courses in random subjects for the past 6 years now, no work just learning.
I'm on HECS -HELP so my uni payments are differed till I get a good job and earn a certain amount of money.
I also have Centerlink payments but I use the money to help pay for food for the family and our internet. And sometimes the bills if my Dad needs help with that.
So I have no money left to get food or uni books and other resources, when I help pay the bills and other house hold expenses.
I even had to sell my old laptop last month to get more money.
I told them of my situation when I first started but they told me to apply for scholarships, but the problem with that is anyone is allowed to apply so you can be rich and get one, and they pick your name randomly out of a draw, its all chance, and I was unlucky and received nothing, while one of my friends got a $20 000 scholarship.
I'll ask about public housing, since I can't take everyone being abusive to each other here. Someone gets into a physical fight every few months, I have at least 3 times now.
I did get job assistance from Centerlink but they just told me to hand out resumes that's it!
I did see a phycologists at my uni but I only saw them once every few weeks, since they're book up. And I always stop seeing them after a few sessions, I don't really know why but I feel like talking about my feelings isn't helping me at all.
And now I already fucked up my semester this year I missed 3 weeks of uni because I was to mentally unstable and suffered from a migrain.
Yeah I think you're right, it's kinda fuck up for a teen to help take care of their family.
Should I try and move out perhaps by seeking housing and rent money from my uni and Centerlink? Maybe they'll help me if I tell them whats really going on in my house.
But I'm scared they might get too involved and call the cops on someone since a 14 year old is there.
If I move stores under a new boss do you think they'll do the same thing to me?
Or maybe I should just go job hunting for a new one.
Okay I won't give up for now.
Kinda fuck up but I told myself if I'm still in the shits when I'm 40, then maybe I should end my life, but I hope it doesn't come to that.
Thank your for your kind and intelligent words, it's nice to know someone still cares about me.
This help me far more than any phycologists I've ever seen.