Is it normal to be falling for my ex while involved with another man?

i have had a great long distance relationship for a year. he is wonderful, and perfect, i truly love him. we even have plans to see eachother in a few short months. everything seemed so perfect, until recently i started hanging out with my ex. he was a little abusive when we first dated, and that was part of the reason we broke it off. he flirts with many people in a way, but is also in a relationship. we don't hang out alone, but even with friends there we are very close. this way normal, but today when we were apart from the group for a bit he was holding my hand and stroking my arm..everything about his body language says he wants something. i am confused, because i love my boyfriend very much and don't want to cheat on him, but i feel very strongly for my ex lately. is this normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • Quick take: there's no such thing as "a little abusive". It's like being a little pregnant. He abused you. The end. Please don't go back. You deserve better than abuse! Find a guy without an abusive history!

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  • Hard to say. but i suggest you stay away from your ex

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  • Long distance is tough. You must nurture it, or it won't last. The short time you've Bern together....hmmmm. You may have some issues staying faithful (it can be done). I wouldn't allow anything to happen until you and your boyfriend communicate about the long distance deal. A roughy!

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  • It is normal to still have feelings for a guy you dated for a long time but if he was abusive in the past there is a good chance that he hasn't changed. Don't Mess up what you have just because you have feelings still for your ex. You broke up for a reason so remember that reason and stay with the new guy

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  • I'd say the ex is a loser. Chances are if he doesnt respect his current girl enuf not to be so touchy with you, then how could u expect more. And abusive relstionships csn turn out real ugly.... For the abuser that is, trust me i know and its nothing to take lightly.

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