Is it normal to be falling for my best friend?

I have a boyfriend and we've been together for almost a year and a half. I left for school about 3 months after we started dating and everything was fine. It was perfect actually. Just a couple months ago, we started fighting about things and having disagreements and even though we talked about staying together forever, I don't think I can make it that long with him anymore. I understand that people in long-term relationships fight, but this is ridiculous. He doesn't understand the reasoning behind the things that I want in life. He tells me he wants me to be happy, but he questions me when I tell him what I want in life.

As soon as I got to college a little over a year ago, I almost instantly became best friends with a guy down the hall. We know everything about each other and he's such a sweetheart. He's been there for me more (emotionally) than my boyfriend has and even though I know some things about him that would normally push people away, it draws me in. He recently left school due to some terrible circumstances and since then, I've felt lost and like a piece of me is missing. I think about him all the time, and I can't stop myself.

Is it normal?

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Based on 61 votes (56 yes)
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  • coolio75650932

    i'm currently married to my best friend.

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  • mayjay

    Yes it is normal. Bestfriends constantly fall for each other its normal. Only thing is most of the time they are too afraid to tell eachother. I think you should tell him how you feel!!

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  • Mcdc

    Totally absolutely under every circumstance, normal. I had a crush on this Korean guys in my school and when he left I did feel a little empty inside.

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  • this9guy

    yeah its normal.
    maybe you would be happier dating your college guy ....

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  • forgetit

    ok so you are wanting this to start over with another guy? me and my girlfriend have had really intense problems. and it was really hard, and dramatic, and straining process and we never thought it was going to be the same of how it was before. but guess, what, we both really got over it. there is absolutely no more tense feeling about the whole situation and we are happy together. and her being a headstrong girl i know shes really over it if she acts like it. problems happen. you will fight. but hey, sex can also relieve that stress. if you are not having sex, then god damn. you are in a problem haha

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  • College is a big transition & you've moved on. But there are too many loose ends in your relationships.

    Time to make it clean & tidy or it will just drive you nuts. Call it off with the former boy friend.

    Also regarding the guy down the hall, just give yourself a break. Don't start anything up until you have cleared up & feel over the not even as yet past boy friend. You may be looking at the new guy through different eyes.

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  • I'm sorry, I didn't read your story and I could be way off. I am rather tired and cannot sleep.

    My fiance and I were best friends since I have known her. She doesn't "excite" me as other women probably would and her looks could use some work, but she is my best friend and I do everythign with her. I could not ask for someone I would rather be with.

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