That's because they're most likely thinking role-play or rough sex. and playing a game with someone is vastly different.
in the game, you've given true consent and your partner has agreed to obey your "signale" or "code word". you might never use it but know you can. and that your partner won't really hurt you.
Some of them I guess. Not sure I want to discuss it on this post though. I can't imagine what the OP is going through. I can't imagine how to even start getting over something like that if it happened to me. Your advice is good though, therapy.
I know of many people who entertain a rape fantasy, and a few that have even roleplayed such a thing out.
I haven't met anyone who had a crossover between that and actual rape, but it's plausible.
In my case, I don't believe there's any connection. I can think of nothing sexual at all about the actual incident. My own theory is that some part of me wants to reassure myself that sex can be a happy, pleasurable act... not sure.
I've been staring at your comment for 15 minutes now. I can't think of a single thing that might be the cause or of anything that might make you feel better.
I hope, with all the strength and energy in me, that you get over the pain quickly. You strike me as a strong person and that makes me happy despite the circumstances.
I agree with you on the gun laws btw. Allowing anyone to have guns just increases the chances of more people being shot and hurt. People with more of conscience wouldn't go for guns anyway. I could buy a gun, but I don't because it would increase the chances of me hurting someone else.
I guess it's easier in a way, to do it online. People don't know who I am, I don't have to see the look in their eyes, that sort of thing. Processing it, and all that. Thank you, though, for your words.
I'd say meditate, but then if you aren't in the habit, it won't help for awhile. I process everything when I'm meditating, it helps go through everything from a safe place.
My sister was sexually abused as a kid and she's over most of the horrid part, but then that doesn't compare to what you went through
IIN to be extremely horny all the time after having been raped?
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That's because they're most likely thinking role-play or rough sex. and playing a game with someone is vastly different.
in the game, you've given true consent and your partner has agreed to obey your "signale" or "code word". you might never use it but know you can. and that your partner won't really hurt you.
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Some of them I guess. Not sure I want to discuss it on this post though. I can't imagine what the OP is going through. I can't imagine how to even start getting over something like that if it happened to me. Your advice is good though, therapy.
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You're free to discuss whatever you'd like here.
I know of many people who entertain a rape fantasy, and a few that have even roleplayed such a thing out.
I haven't met anyone who had a crossover between that and actual rape, but it's plausible.
In my case, I don't believe there's any connection. I can think of nothing sexual at all about the actual incident. My own theory is that some part of me wants to reassure myself that sex can be a happy, pleasurable act... not sure.
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I've been staring at your comment for 15 minutes now. I can't think of a single thing that might be the cause or of anything that might make you feel better.
I hope, with all the strength and energy in me, that you get over the pain quickly. You strike me as a strong person and that makes me happy despite the circumstances.
I agree with you on the gun laws btw. Allowing anyone to have guns just increases the chances of more people being shot and hurt. People with more of conscience wouldn't go for guns anyway. I could buy a gun, but I don't because it would increase the chances of me hurting someone else.
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Being able to talk about it helps.
I guess it's easier in a way, to do it online. People don't know who I am, I don't have to see the look in their eyes, that sort of thing. Processing it, and all that. Thank you, though, for your words.
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I'd say meditate, but then if you aren't in the habit, it won't help for awhile. I process everything when I'm meditating, it helps go through everything from a safe place.
My sister was sexually abused as a kid and she's over most of the horrid part, but then that doesn't compare to what you went through