We're not a separate species; we're just people with higher voices and different shapes. :)
"Just talk to her" always sounds easier than it is, though, so here are a few things that might help:
1. Work up to talking with a smile and a wave when you catch her eye. She'll feel more familiar with you and find it easier to talk to you.
2. Have something to talk about before you approach her. Make it something mildly interesting and neutral -- no coming up and asking her her thoughts on gun control. An upcoming holiday or recent event is a safe bet.
3. Rehearse what you're going to say a little bit. You don't want to over-rehearse so you sound like you're delivering a line, but practicing what you'll say can give you confidence and ease your worry.
4. Think about all the conversations you've had and all the silly things people have said to you. Have you ever rejected anyone or thought less of him because he stammered over a word or mispronounced something? Of course you haven't, because you aren't an asshole. Well, neither is she, so just talk to her. :)
I agree with this, wholeheartedly. I do want to add practicing talking to other women, perhaps the OP is semi-familiar with but still uncomfortable around, to learn to work around the fears. Or just talking to random people, in the elevator and such.
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We're not a separate species; we're just people with higher voices and different shapes. :)
"Just talk to her" always sounds easier than it is, though, so here are a few things that might help:
1. Work up to talking with a smile and a wave when you catch her eye. She'll feel more familiar with you and find it easier to talk to you.
2. Have something to talk about before you approach her. Make it something mildly interesting and neutral -- no coming up and asking her her thoughts on gun control. An upcoming holiday or recent event is a safe bet.
3. Rehearse what you're going to say a little bit. You don't want to over-rehearse so you sound like you're delivering a line, but practicing what you'll say can give you confidence and ease your worry.
4. Think about all the conversations you've had and all the silly things people have said to you. Have you ever rejected anyone or thought less of him because he stammered over a word or mispronounced something? Of course you haven't, because you aren't an asshole. Well, neither is she, so just talk to her. :)
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I agree with this, wholeheartedly. I do want to add practicing talking to other women, perhaps the OP is semi-familiar with but still uncomfortable around, to learn to work around the fears. Or just talking to random people, in the elevator and such.