I'm not sure how he'd react to that. He's very vocal as far as talking dirty to me during sex, but I usually just respond to his questions - I've never really initiated it. I'm a bit afraid that he may not like it or may wonder where it's coming from. I've been kind of hoping to come up with a way to get him to raise the topic because he doesn't always respond well to me raising things. For example, I kissed him the other night when he got home from work and he pulled away and scolded me saying that I was kissing him inappropriately because our son was playing in the next room. I wasn't anything that I considered inappropriate - a kiss like you'd see in a PG movie and he will often do far worse in front of anyone. But then he went upstairs, changed clothes and came back down, pulled me into the laundry room and had sex with me in there. Over the years I've kind of realized that he likes for me to want him, but he more prefers that it's kind of on his terms. He doesn't directly make me feel ashamed of initiating something he doesn't like, like he doesn't call me names or anything, but he reacts as though he doesn't approve and then I feel uncomfortable about it. Not sure if I'm explaining it properly - he isn't a creep or anything. I think he's just used to me being one way and doesn't want that to change - if that makes sense.
IIN to be embarrassed to ask your husband to try anal sex
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I'm not sure how he'd react to that. He's very vocal as far as talking dirty to me during sex, but I usually just respond to his questions - I've never really initiated it. I'm a bit afraid that he may not like it or may wonder where it's coming from. I've been kind of hoping to come up with a way to get him to raise the topic because he doesn't always respond well to me raising things. For example, I kissed him the other night when he got home from work and he pulled away and scolded me saying that I was kissing him inappropriately because our son was playing in the next room. I wasn't anything that I considered inappropriate - a kiss like you'd see in a PG movie and he will often do far worse in front of anyone. But then he went upstairs, changed clothes and came back down, pulled me into the laundry room and had sex with me in there. Over the years I've kind of realized that he likes for me to want him, but he more prefers that it's kind of on his terms. He doesn't directly make me feel ashamed of initiating something he doesn't like, like he doesn't call me names or anything, but he reacts as though he doesn't approve and then I feel uncomfortable about it. Not sure if I'm explaining it properly - he isn't a creep or anything. I think he's just used to me being one way and doesn't want that to change - if that makes sense.