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I have sexual fantasies of rough sex and forced sex e.g being pinned down, tied up, gagged, having hands around my neck, being spanked, grabbed, having my hair pulled etc.
But I'm too embarrassed to tell my boyfriend how I want it and I don't know exactly why. I just feel embarrassed saying it.
Even when I have had one night stands where I would never see them again, I still feel embarrassed telling them to spank me etc.
Is it normal?
None of what you like is that unusual or embarrassing although when I've been asked for things like this, the person didn't come right out and say it. We had a little dance around it first, and they started with something mild before admitting bit by bit what most turned them on.
As a man, I wouldn't have been in the slightest bit bothered if she'd have just come right out with it. The strange thing is, I still think there were things people were holding back out of fear and I was so well within my comfort zone that pretty much whatever they were, I'd have indulged her and she could have had her fondest wish.
If only she'd have asked.
I can't speak for all men but I like it when women think about sex and then share their wants.
Unfortunately, even now days it is normal for some girls to be embarrassed about discussing their fantasies.
It should NOT be this way, but for some it is.
Maybe try printing out some erotic stories that have the same theme as your fantasies and leave them laying on the bed or something.
When he asks about it, it might be easier for you to open up and discuss your wants and needs.