Is it normal to be disappointed even though i know it's my fault??

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Okay so all my life(I'm 19)I've been too shy to flirt and basically hint a guy that I like him. So what I do is I just imagine like how it would happen. Now don't get crazy..it's not some crazy sex fantasy. Lol. Basically I just picture how our conversation can start. Like if I wore a band T shirt and he noticed or if we share a class then bump into eachother at the store. I am so lame I even think about what our conversations can be about and even try to think of some clever and fun responses. Spare me the insults. HaHa I know how pathetic I may sound. Anyway when the guy doesn't follow through with my "plans" I get sad and dissapointed even though I knew deep down it wasn't ever going to happen. Lol. Anyway is it normal that I get sad when this happens and still don't try to learn how to flirt and open up to guys?? I'm so lame! Lol.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago | pl

    Why don't you try talking to them as if they are just your regular friends? You don't need to make a conscious effort to flirt, just chat initially.

    I talk to everyone, I don't care if they are male, female or alien and I get asked out every week in life. Men think coz I chat to them that I'm interested in them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    You sound cute :) Just try not to imagine how you would like things to happen and roll with the punches.

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  • bigguy2010
    12 years ago | pl

    Try this...

    "Hi! I'm ___________. What's your name?"

    "Can I interest you in a dinner and a movie?"

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  • BeliDee
    12 years ago | pl

    I do that too. I live more in my mind than in reality.

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  • AmINormal101
    12 years ago | pl

    Can I know you more? :)

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago | pl

      haha :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    It's normal. It's ok to feel fear about flirting. Just don't let it discourage you; keep trying and it'll eventually become second nature.

    But it will feel awkward at first. That too shall pass :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    You don't sound pathetic nor lame to me. You just over think everything too much. Stop thinking about how it could have been and make it how it will be. Be yourself and I'm sure it's gonna work out.

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