That is a poor list of choices, but I would pick get therapy, because you need someone to coach you on how to change your outlook and get through your problems. I'm guessing that you didn't report your abusers and see to it that they served time for their actions, so you don't have any closure. And you need to learn from your "mistakes" and try to avoid putting yourself in those situations to be abused and raped. And take self defense classes and/or carry some kind of weapon on you, so by the small chance it does happen again, you will be prepared. And know that with this knowledge, remain hopeful that it will never happen to you again, and that life gets better.
And as far as the don't eat/become bulimic goes, you need to learn to love yourself. And if you don't like the way you look, then put in the effort to go on a good exercise program and a better diet. One of my good friends was fat thru middle/high school and was made fun of for it, but she worked her ass off, and by her second year in college, was a slim sexy woman, who could shove it in the faces of those who made fun of her.
And i just wrote a long comment on the OP's response to my comment, to explain my disposition on turning to medication.
Sorry to hear that, I was just spitballing suggestions based on the majority of cases and from my experience (my sister has been abused and raped, and it's more or less completely her fault for hanging out with bad people, because she'd rather hang out with bad people than no people), as I have no idea what your situation is.
And I can kind of see your point about pressing charges, but if you are living it over in your head anyway, i feel like living it over in one trial, and seeing the man go to prison would make me feel better at least. And in my mind, I would tell myself that karma got to him giving him what he deserved, and I could live with myself and move on, instead of trying to go through life knowing that the person who wronged me so badly is able to do so and get away with it, and can be doing it to other people.
For some reason i thought you were asking for suggestions though, silly me for thinking a girl would want that though. Good luck with your problems, i hope you figure it out.
Is it normal to be depressed even on meds?
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I don't disagree that medication can help people, so can illegal drugs and alcohol, but that doesn't mean it's the only or best choice.
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I gave you a list of choices. Which among them was better than medication?
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That is a poor list of choices, but I would pick get therapy, because you need someone to coach you on how to change your outlook and get through your problems. I'm guessing that you didn't report your abusers and see to it that they served time for their actions, so you don't have any closure. And you need to learn from your "mistakes" and try to avoid putting yourself in those situations to be abused and raped. And take self defense classes and/or carry some kind of weapon on you, so by the small chance it does happen again, you will be prepared. And know that with this knowledge, remain hopeful that it will never happen to you again, and that life gets better.
And as far as the don't eat/become bulimic goes, you need to learn to love yourself. And if you don't like the way you look, then put in the effort to go on a good exercise program and a better diet. One of my good friends was fat thru middle/high school and was made fun of for it, but she worked her ass off, and by her second year in college, was a slim sexy woman, who could shove it in the faces of those who made fun of her.
And i just wrote a long comment on the OP's response to my comment, to explain my disposition on turning to medication.
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• I can't exercise or take self defence classes right now due to my disability, although there are measures I can and do take for my safety.
• I wasn't abused and raped because I put myself in a situation to be. It happened because somebody abused and raped me.
• Pressing charges doesn't guarantee closure or stability; in fact, sometimes the process can be very traumatic for victims.
• I'm already bulimic.
• I'm not going to be happy with the way I look until I'm at an unhealthy weight.
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Sorry to hear that, I was just spitballing suggestions based on the majority of cases and from my experience (my sister has been abused and raped, and it's more or less completely her fault for hanging out with bad people, because she'd rather hang out with bad people than no people), as I have no idea what your situation is.
And I can kind of see your point about pressing charges, but if you are living it over in your head anyway, i feel like living it over in one trial, and seeing the man go to prison would make me feel better at least. And in my mind, I would tell myself that karma got to him giving him what he deserved, and I could live with myself and move on, instead of trying to go through life knowing that the person who wronged me so badly is able to do so and get away with it, and can be doing it to other people.
For some reason i thought you were asking for suggestions though, silly me for thinking a girl would want that though. Good luck with your problems, i hope you figure it out.
you have my best answer to your ?