In your situation it is "normal". Children form better bonds with people if they receive the right amount of positive psychical contact as infants. A disproportionate number of people that were adopted have issues forming close bonds later in life. It is not the adoption as such. It is because of the lack of physical intimacy compared to a non adoptive situation. In your situation I would suspect that because the person you were closet to was your sister that is the person you formed the closed bond with. Not unlike the the psychology of "Imprinting"(read up!). Though there is some debate on the significance of a direct comparison to human infants. I think therapy is a good idea. Not to break you of it, but to try to explain to you the mechanism behind it. It always helps to know yourself better. And if you are not comfortable with the direction a particular therapist is taking. Find a new one. You have a right to get the information you feel you need. And to take a reasonable amount of time to explore different directions until you are comfortable it they are right or wrong.
Is it normal to be best friends with a twin sister?
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In your situation it is "normal". Children form better bonds with people if they receive the right amount of positive psychical contact as infants. A disproportionate number of people that were adopted have issues forming close bonds later in life. It is not the adoption as such. It is because of the lack of physical intimacy compared to a non adoptive situation. In your situation I would suspect that because the person you were closet to was your sister that is the person you formed the closed bond with. Not unlike the the psychology of "Imprinting"(read up!). Though there is some debate on the significance of a direct comparison to human infants. I think therapy is a good idea. Not to break you of it, but to try to explain to you the mechanism behind it. It always helps to know yourself better. And if you are not comfortable with the direction a particular therapist is taking. Find a new one. You have a right to get the information you feel you need. And to take a reasonable amount of time to explore different directions until you are comfortable it they are right or wrong.