It's worth mentioning, though, that sometimes people, even adults, really do need you to put out your cigarette. For some people, cigarette smoke can trigger migraines, asthma attacks, and other health problems, and moving down a table isn't enough. I wish they'd either make designated smoking areas that are easy to avoid, or at least make it so people know it's not ok to smoke right outside entrances to buildings and such.
I wonder how many of the people who are rude about it are people who it actually hurts. If you just don't like the smell, it's not ok to be an asshole about it (unless you have sensory issues), but I can't really blame people who it physically hurts for being rude.
Again, IF you are dealing with someone that is consciously making an effort to inconvenience someone to whom it is a health concern, YES you are dealing with a jerk, and you're at liberty to respond in kind.
People who make an effort to stick to designated smoking areas, to keep their distance from those who don't smoke, and who are generally polite and willing to change their behavior to accommodate non-smokers simply don't deserve this rampant hostility.
They're a human being. Treat them like one. It's not that hard. The fact they smoke is NOT a free pass to show that you're a rude, petty, hostile individual.
if you ask someone to put out their cigratte some might obey some might refuse some might fight and some might insult u
what will u do if he/she replies "are you my father/mother? or did u pay for the cigratte?
Yeah it can be hard sometimes to stay positive and be polite when we're bothered by things. I think the OP has a point in that people should try to be nice, but I understand that it could be difficult when someone is suffering.
Mostly I think people should just try to be more kind to others, whether it's about smoking, not smoking, or anything else.
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It's worth mentioning, though, that sometimes people, even adults, really do need you to put out your cigarette. For some people, cigarette smoke can trigger migraines, asthma attacks, and other health problems, and moving down a table isn't enough. I wish they'd either make designated smoking areas that are easy to avoid, or at least make it so people know it's not ok to smoke right outside entrances to buildings and such.
I wonder how many of the people who are rude about it are people who it actually hurts. If you just don't like the smell, it's not ok to be an asshole about it (unless you have sensory issues), but I can't really blame people who it physically hurts for being rude.
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Again, IF you are dealing with someone that is consciously making an effort to inconvenience someone to whom it is a health concern, YES you are dealing with a jerk, and you're at liberty to respond in kind.
People who make an effort to stick to designated smoking areas, to keep their distance from those who don't smoke, and who are generally polite and willing to change their behavior to accommodate non-smokers simply don't deserve this rampant hostility.
They're a human being. Treat them like one. It's not that hard. The fact they smoke is NOT a free pass to show that you're a rude, petty, hostile individual.
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See my response to LilyAmongTheThorns.
I don't think people should be rude first. Wouldn't it be worth it to ask politely to see if they'd move or put out their cigarette?
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if you ask someone to put out their cigratte some might obey some might refuse some might fight and some might insult u
what will u do if he/she replies "are you my father/mother? or did u pay for the cigratte?
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Isn't that the whole point of the post? That smokers who aren't rude and who do acquiesce shouldn't be treated rudely?
If someone did that they would be rude. I can understand being upset by that but they're not the sort of person the Q is about, I think.
I didn't say that people SHOULD be rude, just that it's understandable. Sometimes, when people are in pain, they're rude. I get that.
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Yeah it can be hard sometimes to stay positive and be polite when we're bothered by things. I think the OP has a point in that people should try to be nice, but I understand that it could be difficult when someone is suffering.
Mostly I think people should just try to be more kind to others, whether it's about smoking, not smoking, or anything else.