Is it normal to be attracted to younger teenage girls

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I cant remember when this started, but for a couple of years now Ive had this huge attraction for girls who are like, 15-19 years old. On the street when I see a girl who is around that age, and who has a mature body, it just drives me wild. I feel like I want to speak to them, or in some way reach out to them. Obviously that is ridiculous because they have no idea who I am, but I'm just worried that being sexually attracted to them is wrong.
I'm no pervert, trust me. Ive had anxiety problems in the past regarding fears of turning into a pedophile and pure obsessive compulsive disorder but I have figured out how to beat that,(ignoring urges and intrusive thoughts which makes them go away.)

The thing is, I dont have guilt when I say I'm genuinely attracted to teenage girls. They ignite this passion in me that I cant ignore. Its their youthfullness and innocence and especially their bodies which mainly captures my attention.
I'm a pretty good looking guy, and I definitely look younger than my age, (I'm 22 by the way) and take care of my body, so when I pass these girls on the street some of them tend to look at me curiously, almost catching my looks at them. Its like this moment of attraction between us both and I love that.

Is it wrong to think that I would take the opportunity to sleep with a girl around that age?

Is It Normal?
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  • DudeUrFuglyXox
    11 years ago | pl

    22 isnt that old its not like you're 50 and liking girls that age

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    i wouldnt go as far as calling you a pedophile but i do think the age diffrence is to great between someone 22 and lets say 15.I say that because i have a younger sister who's fifthteen while her body may look like a womens talking to her for five minutes you would quickly realize she's not.

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  • litnas
    11 years ago | pl

    according to the dsm v, pedophilia is a strong sexual attraction to people under 15, that are not fully physically developed. so, even if you were 40 or even 60, it is totally normal to feel attracted to young girls 15-19, come on dude, you are barely 3-7 years older than them, according to the statistics, that is in the range of the ideal age difference for a male-female marriage to work out. Also, evolutionary, men are attracted to fertile women, and women at that age are more fertile than women over 35. at your age, being attracted to someone under 20 is much more normal tan being attracted to someone over 35. I am 26, I am a normal male and I sometimes feel attracted to girls 15, sometimes there are some girls even 13 or 14 that are really attractive, on this days girls are maturing earlier and earlier. stop your anxiety, you are not a pedophile. But, you should not start a relationship with anybody under the age of consent, if the age of sexual consent is 18 you should only date girls 18 and up.

    Best Regards

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  • MissClaire
    11 years ago | pl

    The kind of body that you describe is what the media projects as beautiful so you arent alone. This is a large reason why so many women have self esteem problems and are annorexic - that is the only way to be sexually attractive. I am not in any way suggesting that you cause women to be annorexic nor am I suggesting that all men have the same preferences. I am simply suggesting that it is completely normal and that a lot of men secretly want a girl that looks within that age.
    I often ask myself this question though: "would you want to date this innocent person long term" or would the maturity level get in the way - most men would suggest that "no, the mood swings, and the constantly taking care of this young person is very inconvinient and gets annoying" soooooooo....... it must be purely sexual.... or a part time thing on based on your convienience.
    I have heard of a lot of men that cheat on their wives with the babysitter (my ex boyfriends dad did for ONE example).
    Anyway, normal.
    Sounds like you might be trying to justify something that you think might be wrong or that you feel guilty about it.

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  • katty44
    11 years ago | pl

    well im not gonna be ignorant and call you a pedophile, however i am somewhat taken aback that you had to ignore intrusive pedophile thoughts.... i feel that you should seek help for this, you never know when it can manifest itself. Also just stick to the girls that are 18-and up or 18-22 since you like young girls...any girl thats younger will def get you a jail stay.

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    • riazomonero
      11 years ago | pl

      I wont go into detail about the intrusive thoughts but they are not as much as a problem for me as they used to be. If you do a bit of research you will see its an anxiety related condition, pure obsessional compulsive disorder. Fears of being a pedophile are in the same vein as fear of hurting somebody else, or fear of dropping a baby, or fear of stabbing relatives etc. They are all intrusive thoughts. Theres no way it can manifest itself, thats a common conception people have to this, but its like saying, the fear of me stabbing relatives and the fear of me enjoying it are actually going to make me do it. Doesnt that sound ridiculous.

      I appreciate your view though.

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  • Sweetz
    11 years ago | pl

    Maybe you're attracted to these girls because you don't really want to accept the fact that you are getting old(not that you are old). ^.^

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  • Dad
    11 years ago | pl

    If you want to remain out of jail and continue your life, your career, and one day your respected family, you will have to continue looking the other way.

    Regarding normal?
    Different countries have different laws regarding age of consent.
    In some countries its 12 (just a fact here)
    Its true that some younger girls are hot, men won't admit it normally, but they control their urges and don't act or even think of them at times.

    Strangely the young teenage years are awkward years for girls. They may start to blossom, but they are certainly not exactly in proportion, and they know it too. Since their bodies are changing so quickly even if you did go out with one, the following year they may look totally different!

    Many men go for adult asians because they have that smallish body look, but are adults anyway. You just need to find someone who has similar looks but is legal. Anyway, they won't be into Justin Bieber so thats got to be good! Lol

    If you want to re-reply with your real perfect age of a girl I'll help there too, but you say up to 19 ?? Well there's no issue there at all (?)

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    • riazomonero
      11 years ago | pl

      I appreciate you having an open minded view on this. So many people start freaking out like its the end of the world when a person mentions they are attracted to girls around 15/16, such is the social pressure on that topic nowadays.

      But yeah, I know what you are saying look the other way etc. I doubt I would go out with a 15 year old girl, unless I fell head over heels in love with her, it would be way too weird, especially since my friends would be aware of it too.

      I dont have a perfect age for a girl but I guess I am more attracted to girls a few years younger than me.
      Don't know why.

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      • Dad
        11 years ago | pl

        Seriously 22 and 15, is not THAT bad.
        People need to be a bit more 'normal' about this.
        If you want a 15yo GF (or have one, or about to or who knows what) just keep it on the hush hush.
        If you were say 25 or over I'd have stronger (still helpful) words.

        Will people reply with how disgusting that is? Probably, but this is real life we are talking about here, this scenario itself is common. (if they like it or not)

        By the way, you do realize that if you ever break up, or if you ever have even the smallest argument, she is totally in her right to then go to the police (that'll be embarrassing)
        Don't think you can trust a 15yo not to tell, remember they change ;)

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        • anon1964
          11 years ago | pl

          Im ashamed to say that im in this situation. Not 22 mind you, but close. No illegal stuff either, but people still talk.

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          • Dad
            11 years ago | pl

            It's ok anon1964. Hmm, that doesn't stand for Anonymous 1964 Does it? Lol, that would be older than me! Anyway you said close, so I'll think up to age ~ 26.

            Just be fully aware of my last lines above.
            Its TRUE a 16yo is worlds apart from a 15yo; and so is a 17yo to a 16yo. etc
            What I'm trying to say is that although a young teen girl may be all over you one day, the next day (or months, whatever) she WILL change dramatically. For you to trust that this is in your favor is 50/50.

            So, I'd think long and hard if the sensual explicit time is given to you. Maybe you should write 'No' on your arm or something, because when the heat is on, it will be hard to stop, and it may affect the rest of your life!

            If you really love someone this young (and she to you, presently!) Then you will WAIT.

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago | pl

    I have so many opinions about this post, but I'll just say one thing: if this infatuation with teenaged girls continued as you get older, you probably will be deemed a pedophile.

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  • Chut
    7 years ago | pl

    15 yrs is illegal and having sex with 15 yrs is crime. I love girls age 21 to 25. I am 50 yrs old and believe me I love to eat girls aging 21 to 25 yrs. Specially their pussy smell and most sexy smell they keep inside their asshole.

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  • BluntsRolled
    11 years ago | pl

    I'm 21. Same here shagged a couple 16 yr old's but none lower then that, but follow the law you must. Be careful bro. Don't do something you will regret later.

    Oh and watch Dateline, Chris Hansen pwns.

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  • GaelicPride26
    11 years ago | pl

    I feel that at 22, that's alright if you feel that way. But getting into a relationship with someone under the age of 18 could, obviously, present some legal problems. But if you find a girl that shares your feelings who's under the age of 18, just try be a good friend until she comes of age. If the relationship lasts until then, it shows good commitment towards each other.
    Plus, that really isn't that much of an age difference. I'm 19 (a girl) and my ideal guy is maybe 19-23.

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  • DannyKanes
    11 years ago | pl

    *Australia is 16

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  • DannyKanes
    11 years ago | pl

    Being 22, I don't think there is anything wrong with it, it's not like you're 40 or 50 or something. Btw, the legal age here in Aust

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  • bryson_willis
    11 years ago | pl

    I think 16+ is okay for your age. Men have and will always like younger women. However the law is the law, and has consequences, so what I'm saying is...

    you don't want to get into a situation with a guy named bob, who will ask you to bend over and pick up that bar of soap he just dropped in the prison showers. I hope you know what I mean.

    you should squat...

    but seriously, I don't think you'd get arrested for having a non-sexual relationship AFAIK. But if you happen to be a lot wealthier than I am and a celebrity at that, well... see:http://tinyurl.com/cyp2eoz

    He's 50 and will get away with what you couldn't even at 19! that's right, that sicko (the male one) has one over on you and he's FIFTY! The world is a cruel cruel place.

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  • kittenlittle
    11 years ago | pl

    your only 22, so your still in the same age bracket pretty much. I wouldn't try anything if i were you, unless you want to end up in jail and have to register as a sex offender or end up on the show To Catch a Predator. go for the 18 and up ones. If you were 30+, then it would be kind of weird to be sexually attracted to them.

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  • pem24
    11 years ago | pl

    Hmmm...Are you sure you're just 22?
    Anyways, you'd better not cross the moral law borders here.. 18 and up is ok, but explicitly doing it on minors would consider you as a pervert since you stated here that you are sexually attracted to them.
    Keep it on your head before someone else gets hurt.

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    • riazomonero
      11 years ago | pl

      yes im 22, i wouldnt lie about my age.
      This is just an off the cuff question, I'm not going to actually do anything regarding this 'attraction.' though I said I would in the question above, I dont think I actually would. I've got morals and boundaries.

      Its just that I'm curious as to why im attracted to these girls.
      Most of the girls that age that Ive spoke to are incredibly annoying anyway so I doubt I would want a relationship with one.

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  • lovelychanel2
    11 years ago | pl

    duh it's normal! you're not a pedophile if you're attracted to a female who already has a womanly body, regardless of her age. pedophiles like children. i wouldn't worry about this not being normal, just try not to be one of those sleazy guys who preys on younger girls all the time. but yes, this is insanely normal. i'm 20 years old and i actually feel like i was hotter when i was 16-18 (i think it's the barely blossoming-youthful exuberance that comes with that phase)

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  • samsonite
    11 years ago | pl

    dude its normal,men are supposed to like tits and arse so if the subject has these and i dont mean some genetic fuck up who is like still in nappies with a big arse and a pair of tits although this to me wud be hilarious he,then other than this id say its normal

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