Is it normal to be attracted to my father or men like him?

My father is an intelligent, good looking, funny, and a loving man. He's not what I'd call a father in the normal sense of the term though, I think it's more accurate to call him a live in teacher. He was a father when I was young, but when i Turned 8 he left our family to work in NY, four states away from the rest of us. Our relationship was strained, in fact his relationships with my mother and my sisters were as well. He was now a bank, a source of income that we hardly knew. Then when I was 13 he came back into my life, and whisked me away to MI when my mother became too unstable to take care of me. For 6 months I became something like a house wife. I cooked, cleaned, and greater him when he came home and listened to his problems and fears. We grew very close. Then I found out the reason my mom went AWOL was because he had been having affairs for years. I was devastated, and I immediately realized my father had been trying to turn me against my own mother. I went back to her, and she is now healthy and we have a great relationship. But now, my father is once again distant from me. He's dating other women, and though I'm happy for him, I'm somewhat jealous. You see for a few years now I have been having sexual thoughts about my father and people who resembled him, both consciously and unconsciously. When he touches me, rubs my back, holds my hand, I feel like it's a different gesture of affection. He even let's me lay my head on his lap as he runs his hands through my hair. He doesn't seem opposed to me wearing scantily clad clothes around the house either. Sometimes I feel the urge to come on to him straight up. But this isn't what I should feel, right? But when I list things I want in a man, I find that my father qualifies in most of my preferences.
Are these feelings misplaced or am I actually sexually attracted to my own father?

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Based on 100 votes (53 yes)
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Comments ( 11 )
  • livnlrn93

    From a psychological perspective, yes this is normal. I would suggest keeping deliberate sexual thoughts about your dad to a minimum, that is venturing into an area that is rather disturbing

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  • imaaninja

    I guess it is normal to feel this way... according to the situation you have been placed in. However, I wouldn't recommend you act on these feelings. You could ruin the relationship you have with your dad or just be plain wrong....

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  • imustknow

    A lot of women have the daddy fantasey. Its taboo, that's what makes it appealing. But these people are right telling u not to act on it. Date an older man who has what your father has. Tell him you want to role play daddy/daughter in the bedroom. But don't ruin your relationship w your father.

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    • thexian

      Weeeell.. That's an over simplification if I've ever heard one.

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  • Verstehen

    It's normal to feel that way given the weird circumstances, but it's also abnormal to intentionally dwell on it. Stamp these thoughts out. If your dad is a good guy, it's normal to be attracted to guys like him because they are also good guys. Make sense? However, if he has negative traits that you find attractive in other guys, that's a little alarming. DO NOT tell your dad how you feel.

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  • amunet

    Lol

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  • I just saw the exact opposite of this post.

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  • You can't fill a cup that's already full.

    If you can't get dad out of your head then go date a guy like him. It should take care of whatever feelings you have for papa lol

    And yeah it's normal. Your dad sounds like the charismatic type.

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  • Solophonic

    Electra complex, normal for people who don't have the relationship with their father as they wish it were.

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  • Mersaphe

    You have a wonderful imagination OP.
    I doubt that anything you said is true, but it would make a great movie plot.

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  • jamesmitchell29486

    Just tell your dad you're interested the worst case scenario is he avoids you and you said you were already distant but if he likes you too it will bring you closer.

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