I'm going through this... But I know that the attraction is not physical or even really emotional. He's the last person I'd ever have a relationship with. It is the 'high school girl attracted to the bad boy' attraction. (I'm 24 years old. Have a son with my boyfriend of 7 years). When I first met this guy (bfs friend), I hated him. With good reason! He has since been married and divorced from a friend of mine. Lately we've been spending more time with him. On the one hand, he still irritates me to no end. And on the other his personality is just ever-so slightly attractive. And I think allot of the attraction that has recently sturred up also has to do with how well he interacts with my son. Do not make too much of it in your own mind. We are all interested in what's new and have all kinds of attractions to different people. My boyfriend and I have a pretty open relationship in that, we know that either of us is honestly 'looking' at others of the opposite sex. We talk about it, we joke about it. And that way we don't have secrets, we don't have jealousy. I would never put myself in a situation where I was alone with this guy. Why? I don't trust him. Never have. And I can't say that he has enough self respect or strong enough morals that he wouldn't betray his best friend by trying something. I'd like to think that he wouldn't. And I can't say that he is attracted to me, but he is the kind of guy that will take anything that's willing to give in. Always trying to get with anyone who looks like they might be interested.
Yes it's normal... and my advice, take wowmemy's advice coming from a guy being honest about how guys work.
Know that it is 'normal' but also that it means absolutely nothing except that you are human. You're in a long-term relationship that is not worth saccryficing over something that has absolutely no certainty. Especially if this guy is willing to try to push you. He's not a true friend, for starters. And furthermore... would you really want to chance a relationship with someone who would stoop so low?!
Is it normal to be attracted to my boyfriend's friend?
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I'm going through this... But I know that the attraction is not physical or even really emotional. He's the last person I'd ever have a relationship with. It is the 'high school girl attracted to the bad boy' attraction. (I'm 24 years old. Have a son with my boyfriend of 7 years). When I first met this guy (bfs friend), I hated him. With good reason! He has since been married and divorced from a friend of mine. Lately we've been spending more time with him. On the one hand, he still irritates me to no end. And on the other his personality is just ever-so slightly attractive. And I think allot of the attraction that has recently sturred up also has to do with how well he interacts with my son. Do not make too much of it in your own mind. We are all interested in what's new and have all kinds of attractions to different people. My boyfriend and I have a pretty open relationship in that, we know that either of us is honestly 'looking' at others of the opposite sex. We talk about it, we joke about it. And that way we don't have secrets, we don't have jealousy. I would never put myself in a situation where I was alone with this guy. Why? I don't trust him. Never have. And I can't say that he has enough self respect or strong enough morals that he wouldn't betray his best friend by trying something. I'd like to think that he wouldn't. And I can't say that he is attracted to me, but he is the kind of guy that will take anything that's willing to give in. Always trying to get with anyone who looks like they might be interested.
Yes it's normal... and my advice, take wowmemy's advice coming from a guy being honest about how guys work.
Know that it is 'normal' but also that it means absolutely nothing except that you are human. You're in a long-term relationship that is not worth saccryficing over something that has absolutely no certainty. Especially if this guy is willing to try to push you. He's not a true friend, for starters. And furthermore... would you really want to chance a relationship with someone who would stoop so low?!