Let's not be too insensitive about culture here. What's important to us may not be the same as what's important to others. That being said, what is "normal" for Asians is not the same for all Asians, of course.
If you live in Asia (esp. certain parts) then it may not be so easy to talk about the subject, and having sex before marriage can result in a lot of problems for you because of the reactions of family & friends, society, etc. Thus, it's not as easy a situation as we in the US might take for granted. If you live in the US it still may be an issue because of family issues.
The bottom line is that as an adult, it is up to you what you choose to do. Whatever you do, do it for the right reasons. Being "in," or having sex to seem "normal," or having sex just to have sex, or just bc it feels good are NOT good reasons.
Some Qs to consider: Will your decision make you happy? Miserable? Why? Why not? Are you & your happiness more important to you than the collective opinion or vice-versa? Are you in love? Do you think it will be worth it, or do you think waiting is better? Looking into yourself and finding the answers to some of these question will help you make the right choice for you.
Also, talking to someone such as a sex therapist, or someone who is NON-BIASED (who will not push in in any direction, but help you discover what your right answer for you) might not be a bad idea. Generally, when it comes to something as intimate, consequential, and important as sex, when in doubt, better to wait until you are sure. Good luck!
Is it normal to be asian and non-virgin
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Let's not be too insensitive about culture here. What's important to us may not be the same as what's important to others. That being said, what is "normal" for Asians is not the same for all Asians, of course.
If you live in Asia (esp. certain parts) then it may not be so easy to talk about the subject, and having sex before marriage can result in a lot of problems for you because of the reactions of family & friends, society, etc. Thus, it's not as easy a situation as we in the US might take for granted. If you live in the US it still may be an issue because of family issues.
The bottom line is that as an adult, it is up to you what you choose to do. Whatever you do, do it for the right reasons. Being "in," or having sex to seem "normal," or having sex just to have sex, or just bc it feels good are NOT good reasons.
Some Qs to consider: Will your decision make you happy? Miserable? Why? Why not? Are you & your happiness more important to you than the collective opinion or vice-versa? Are you in love? Do you think it will be worth it, or do you think waiting is better? Looking into yourself and finding the answers to some of these question will help you make the right choice for you.
Also, talking to someone such as a sex therapist, or someone who is NON-BIASED (who will not push in in any direction, but help you discover what your right answer for you) might not be a bad idea. Generally, when it comes to something as intimate, consequential, and important as sex, when in doubt, better to wait until you are sure. Good luck!