Is it normal to be asexual at age 42?

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I'm 42 and I have become almost completely asexual, or nonsexual as I also call it. Physically, I can not get aroused anymore, and I find private body parts disgusting, both men and women. I'm saying that because when a couple times when I said I found vaginias gross, they immediately jumped to the conclusion that I was gay. No, I was never gay, I find all private parts on anyone disgusting now. But mentally, I have still at times felt that it's not normal, and I have looked at magazines and tried watching porn to see if I can get myself turned on, but I cannot and I keep feeling totally grossed out by seeing women's vaginias and buttholes up close and shut the porn off feeling grossed out. I just don't understand anymore how people can like that. Is this normal?

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    I would say it's normal to not want to have sex, but being absolutely disgusted with private parts is a different story.

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    • CRAPPUCCINO
      6 years ago

      Agreeable.

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  • CozmoWank
    6 years ago

    Are you taking any SSRI's? They can kill a persons sex drive.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      No, but I've taken methadone, opiates, benzos, and blood pressure medications for years.

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      • MysticLane
        6 years ago

        benzos also kill sex drive

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  • thehalfgoodgirl
    5 years ago

    Oh god

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  • cuntfuckem
    6 years ago

    completly normal, dont worry about it

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  • zyxwxxx
    6 years ago

    People make the mistake that their present circumstances will stay forever. However the only thing constant in life is change. Everything changes.

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  • zyxwxxx
    6 years ago

    I think it is normal. And I don't think it will remain the same forever. Few years from now things might change, and that would be normal too.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      Yes, it could, you never know. Like I said, I've been an opiate addict for more than 5 years, I've been going to the methadone clinic for almost 3 years. I've been on blood pressure meds for 10 years. Benzos off and on too. Also, I'm very out of shape because I haven't excersised in years, that with blood pressure problems. I guess the combo of all that can cause you to lose your sex drive.

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  • chunst
    6 years ago

    Your profile matches those of people who commit mass murder. Remember, if you choose that route, you dont have to hurt good people. There are plenty of bad people you can take out and your blood thirsty desires will amount to a positive.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      Okayyy, that was so ridiculous there I can't help laughing. Mass murdering for not having a sex drive anymore? Yeh. I noticed how many other people on this page wrote comments similar to yours. Lol.

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  • Algum
    6 years ago

    I don't think that long ago, like in the 1930s, 1940s, that people were sex crazy the way that so many people today are. Yes, alot of men wanted to look at a beautiful "dame" and kiss her and fall in love. With women too back then, yes they definitely wanted love and romance, it was one of the most key things that made that age great, and that made alot of films from that era great. But there's still a difference between all that and all the dirty, sex crazed, sex obsessed ways of people today. Yes, people back then wanted to make love to the ones they were falling in love with, and they obviously had a drive, that's just biology. But I don't think drives were as intense, they didn't have all the different things, pills for sex drive, sex all over the media which stirred people in society all up like with how it is today. Just the sex obsessed culture of modern times has programmed people into being more sex crazy. And I also believe that there might be something evolutionary, where every generation gets a little hornier than the one before it. But much of it is societal impact I'm sure. People obviously had sex back in the 1930s, 1940s, early 1950s, that's just the natural physiology that all animals have always contained. But the differences between then and today was; it was a) rarely out of a committed relationship, or even wedlock, b) it was not as dominatingly such a huge percentage of the relationship, and c) people rarely had sex besides missionary, there was alot less variety with different positions, different settings for sex (like it was rarely anywhere besides the bedroom, look at the million different places and settings today people will have sex), and things like oral or anal sex were alot less common, it was usually just vaginal. It was just all less dirty then.

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  • kelliekelliekellie
    6 years ago

    you should try to get drunk or high and see if your libido comes back, if it does then it's definitely your mind messing with you. if it doesnt, it's probably something organic. because every human being has a sex drive, that's how we're programmed.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      I have. I've drinkin, been on opiates and benzos, still lack of drive. It's physical.
      I know that we're supposed to have a sex drive. It's like someone who's deaf, we're supposed to be able to hear, but sometimes there is someone who can't.

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      • kelliekelliekellie
        6 years ago

        Right. Well honestly, if you're okay with it , why not. Just live your life as you want it to

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        • Algum
          6 years ago

          That's right, I will. There are things better about it this way. That sexual tension, and I had it when I was younger, just made it so hard to relax. And higher sex drives make people act crazier, get more easily pissed off about everything, everything that like my family and my parents did annoyed me and I was never able to enjoy spending time with them, which I now have come to find important again, just like when I was a kid before I developed a drive. With focusing on anything enjoyable that's non sex related, having a drive just gets in the way of all that.

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  • MysticLane
    6 years ago

    I would definitely go ask a doctor. It could be a result of medication or your body may be lacking something.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      I think it may be years on lots of medications. But there's a chance that it could also be another underlying illness. Could even be cancer, but I know that's jumping to the worst case scenario. I'll be going to the doctor as soon as I can get enough money for the co-pay.

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  • Poisonous-Cupcakes
    6 years ago

    This is normal... vagina looks like a pice of meat that was left to long out in the sun... very ugly thing...like an octopus if I had to compare it to something.

    Dick looks disgusting too but at least its not as saggy like most vaginas...its normal to NOT like it.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      All private parts are disgusting, men and women's. They're the parts that are the ugliest, smell the most disgusting, and where excretement comes out of. And there are so many people now who want to keep sucking on that? I guess I am not normal for thinking this way in today's sex loving world, but I can't help feeling this way anymore.

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  • Plastique
    6 years ago

    They say about 1% of all population is asexual,so there must be
    millions like you. Or me, I am asexual too, but can fall in love with a woman, but am not interested in sex.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      I sorta feel that way. I worry about how people judge me though sometimes. There have been women who mistake that as a sexual double meaning. It seems that some of them don't understand that you can care about what people think of you without having any interest in sex. That's just about not wanting people mistreating you and all.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    6 years ago

    See, it's normal if not common for someone to be asexual.. I've known people like that before. But to not be like that for most of your life and then have that become a thing later is odd. I'd definitely reccomend the advice of seeing a doctor, just in case something else is going on.

    Sex drives can easily vary throughout ones life but a total change like that does seem to suggest that perhaps something else is going on.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      Even when I had a drive, it was probably weaker than some. I never liked the idea of oral, putting my mouth on a private part. When I was in my late teens and early 20s, that's when my drive was strongest, and it didn't put me in the best mood alot, the sexual tension made life tougher, and I had less tolerant attitudes with people including family. I'm more mellow now with out the sexual frustrations being a problem anymore. Yes, like I said before, I have moments sometimes where I worry if there's an underlying illness, that's when I'll watch porn to try to see if I can awaken any desire, but I can't. But I am doing that more so I can hope that I don't have some illness. But sometimes, I think it might just be due to alot of different medications, including controlled substances, that I've been on.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Yes, but tell us how you feel about the peen please.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      As I stated in my post up top, I have never been gay, I find all private parts on everyone disgusting. I am asexual, not attracted to anyone sexually.

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  • redfastlad
    6 years ago

    utter knob man up

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  • Carlton03
    6 years ago

    Yeah exactly, what’s life expectancy have to do with it? My advice would be just to see how long it lasts for now, keep an eye and monitor it and then if it continues maybe see a doctor if it bothers you.

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      I probably will see a doctor, just to see if the lack of sex drive isn't the result of another underlying illness. As for whether the lack of drive alone bothers me or not, I have mixed feelings about it. It just bothers me sometimes, that's when I look at magazines/porn to try to awaken my drive, but the results are not successful. There are other times when I'm sort of glad about it because I have found that there are other great things in life besides sex. And not having all that sexual tension anymore that I had when I was younger can be quite a relief.

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      • Carlton03
        6 years ago

        Okay cool, it could be or could be stress related, do you feel under stress/face stress? I seem to have a low sex drive and it occasionally bothers me, but I’m mostly glad about it too cause at the end of the day, it’s really just an optional activity, those who constantly think about it or think it’s some sort of manadatory task are either obsessed or addicted in my opinion, the tension gone is one thing but not being obsessed with sex also allows you to focus and prioritise other much more important activities such as work or striving for success, future and time with family etc.

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        • Algum
          6 years ago

          Yeh, that's what I was saying before, that I have found things I love that has nothing to do with sex and with the tension out of the way. Some of it is trying to find a job that makes good money and what I need to do to go find it. I like spending time with family. Other things are related to movies and music. I play piano and I like to learn different songs by ear that I hear in the movies I watch, and I am making it a goal to eventually get work playing piano. I already play in a nursing home once a week. I like lots of different topics about food. And, as another hobby, I like "traveling" on Google maps, zooming down on different places around the world, clicking on Google Street views, and looking at different reviews and pictures of different restaurants, places, attractions, etc

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          • Carlton03
            6 years ago

            I like spending time with family too and hosting dinners and afternoon teas etc, I love sport too and the movies and love watching documentaries. :-)

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          • Carlton03
            6 years ago

            Awesome man!!! you have similar hobbies to me and a well balanced life by the sounds of things, your hobbies are actually meaningful, good luck with finding a career in panio, I like restaurants and searching some info from around the world too, there’s some interesting facts from our 7 continents and 5 oceans.

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            • Algum
              6 years ago

              Thanks. Yeh, I just hardly have any sex drive anymore. But it's not discouraged me from enjoying other areas of life at all. I just posted this page just out of curiosity on what others think, and because I sometimes watch porn to see if that gets me in the mood, to see how dead my drive is, and it does not get me in mood, almost the opposite, my drive is almost totally gone. I am also curious sometimes on if I may have another illness where loss of sex drive is one of the symptoms. I've also been on alot of medications in recent years, and that may have done it too. Like I said, I have mixed feelings about it, sometimes I'm concerned about it, other times I'm actually glad that sexual tension is never a problem for me anymore.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    42 . whats your life expectancy?

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    • Algum
      6 years ago

      What's life expectancy got to do with it?

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