Is it normal to be angered by a human leech?

We employ my Husbands uncle as a salesman in our busy carsales yard. He is paid a salary, so is responsible for paying his own taxes, which he doesnt do. He lives in a state house, which is in his partners name, who is on the DPB (Social security for single parents). She works as a prostitute, who again doesnt pay taxes. My husband and I run a legitimate business, and do everything the hard but honest way. It is a struggle in these hard economic times, but we get through. The uncle will not put any fuel in a vehicle; he just uses it until its empty, dumps it back in the yard, and starts driving something else. My husband and I decided to have one of our fishtanks set up at work with a few goldfish, yet the uncle took control (once again) and put 2 axolotls in it - wont buy the tank, mind you!!! Admittedly, he does pay for their food. We decided to go halves in a boat for the summer. We have come up with our half,once again no money from uncle.Although he has already told us where he plans on taking it. We have a motorbike that is supposed to be shared by all of us, and yet uncle grabbed it at the first opportunity, and we havent ridden it since.No doubt, when it needs fuel, it will magically re-appear! Things finally came to a head as far as I am concerned this saturday, when I grabbed my helmet to bring it home as I am getting another bike, and uncle informed me I wasnt allowed to take it, as he needed to take the groomer home on the back of the bike. He also tried my bike jacket on, but fortunately it was too small. He has already spent his whole inheritance,most of which he spent before his mother died and has nothing to show for it. It just seems he wants all lifes luxuries, at everyone elses expense. Even if he reciprocated in some way, it wouldnt be so bad, but he doesnt. He even scores free chinese meals from down the road as he "lets" the guy park his car in OUR yard. The only reason we put up with it is that hes a good salesman and makes us money - which is what we pay him to do, afterall! I would so love to pull the rug out from under him. I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!!! Any advice would be appreciated

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  • BfingIToucher

    He's doing all this because you LET him. Why haven't you put your foot down? Are you and your husband on the same page?

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    • simba1

      Thanks for your feedback. Yes, my husband and I are on the same page; The uncle is the sort of person that if you try and discuss anything with him, he will throw a tantrum equivalent to that of a two year old. A case in point was on Saturday, when he had the heater on full, and then kept leaving the door open. After repeatedly closing the door behind him (which didnt work work), I turned the heater off. I said to him that it was a waste of power, and all he did was slam the door, and then put the heater back on. Once again, it is us that is paying the power bill, not him. However, he is a good salesman and we simply cant afford to lose him

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  • I don't know, he sounds like a pretty clever guy to me.

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    • simba1

      Very true. There is nothing wrong with being clever. But when it is always at everyone elses expense, and he isnt even pay his way in society, it develops a rather sour note in my book.

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  • kricket

    Have a sit down talk as he is family but he shouldn't be trying to take advantage all the time. Sounds like there needs to be more boundries.

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  • BfingIToucher

    I think there are probably some other good salesmen/women around looking for work. If you are paying for everything, you ultimately have all control, right? His only leverage is that he's a really good salesman?

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    • simba1

      Thanks for the feedback. If we lived in the USA, no doubt there would be plenty of good salesman, but we are in Christchurch, New Zealand, and there are definately not that many around. If only...

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  • Mastersash

    ...just trolling by... 0.o

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