Is it normal to be an impotent male by think about sex constantly

I spent most of my life at sea and decided that marriage to a woman would make me a bigamist as I was already married to the sea. I spent 4 years in the Navy, then went to a Merchant Marine university, got a degree and a Mates ticket. I did smoke for a few years, but quit, and have never done much drinking. I have been a lot of places, been with many women, some I paid for and some not. Mostly I saved my money, and made some investments that made it through the recession in great shape. About 10 years ago I turned up with prostate cancer. I went on the beach for a few months, got the problem solved, but when it was over I was left with very tricky urinary problems and impotent. Because the nerves are cut, none of the pills work. I tried injections, but they don’t work either. The pumps are just absurd. Yet, I think about sex and dream about sex constantly. I’ve tried to relive this by watching porn, reading porn, writing porn stories, but nothing helps. I know that no woman would want to try a relationship with someone like me the way I am. But I am feeling very embarrassed about going to see a pay for play woman when all I want to do is just be held and hold her and touch her while wearing a diaper so I don‘t leak all over the place. I know my situation is not normal, but given where I am, is it normal to be afraid to go see a prostitute?

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  • I thought this was gypsysailors post but then discovered its age!

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  • I voted "Normal" only because I think your worries and feelings are natural. However, I suspect there a a fair number of women who would be very sympathetic to someone as honest as you are about just who you are. I don't think you need a prostitute. Rather you should date, and date as honestly as you posted your question on this site. Sure, you'll strike out a bit, but I think you'll find what you're looking for if you persevere.

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  • Thanks for the thoughts. I appreciate it. I get so down sometimes. Unfortunately for me, when the nerves are severed, it's over, they don't grow back. Maybe someday with the stem cell research that is going on today,we will figure out a way to fix severed nerves. My deepest gratitude goes out to all those who did their bit to kill stem cell research for eight years in the United States. It is funny how things go. Ronnie Reagan killed funding for Alzheimer's research.

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  • Woowww.. That is a damn shame :( Sorry to hear that. Ironically, you lessen your chances of getting prostate cancer by ejaculating often. I wonder if you should see a doctor and get consulted about maybe getting that fixed? When women hit a certain age I know we don't produce enough estrogen and we can take supplements. It may be the same for men, who knows? It's normal to be embarassed about it, but you can find someone :) You might even find a woman who would like ot live on your boat with you? I honestly think you would be better off settling with a woman instead of finding a prostitute. If you find the right lady, she will be accepting of you.

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  • I find it sad that you seek a prostitute, rather than someone who will accept you the way you are with all your flaws.

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    • At my age and with my track record, I wouldn't know how to find anyone. I was bullied in school until one summer when I was 15 going on 16 and grew 13 inches. I was awkward, but I was big enough to be left alone. It you have a happy time growing up then you don't want to leave home at 16 and never go back.

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