First, no it's not normal being 38/40 and never had a relationship or a real date.
Your problem is most likely you're not making yourself available by going out and being social and if you are the you're not allowing yourself to be fun and approachable.
Learn to smile, be fun, and learn to flirt with guys. Don't be a wallflower not saying anything or not having fun.
That keeps guys away from you.
I've had lots of girl buddies just like you and they were not ugly chicks.
Their problem was they had no idea how scared most guys can be to approach girls. So unless the girl is having fun, smiling at the guy, waves him over or whatever. He assumes she's not interested, doesn't want to be bothered or she's already got a boyfriend/taken and he doesn't want to get rejected and embarrassed.
Also look your best, hit the gym because you're competing with other females to get a male.
Males are mostly visual creatures we are very horny and shallow so they go for the hottest girl they can get. Considering we guys don't know you from another girl it makes sense to pick the best looking one at that point because it's all we got to go on.
Wear attractive clothes but nothing too slutty. Highlight your body but don't reveal too much.
Smile and have fun and if a guy is looking at you smile back and wave him over or go up to him.
I'd wait until he looks at you at least 2 or 3 times before you wave him over or if you decide to go over to him.
If your teeth are jacked up, then get them fixed and you won't be self conscious about smiling.
Oh yeah, don't do the smile without teeth. That sends the wrong message.
Smiling with your lips while not showing teeth tells members of the opposite sex, 'Yeah, you're ok. but not my type.' or 'I'm smiling to be polite not because I like you.'
Smiling with teeth says ' I LIKE YOU :) I want more of you.'
Don't leave it to the guy having to come up to you. That's lame and many guys are too scared to do that, that's partially why they drink :
To get liquid courage to be able to approach a girl.
If you go to a bar or social event with a guy right there you're making yourself not available because naturally most guys will assume he's your bf or date. It's not like you girls carry around a big flag saying
"THIS IS NOT MY BF OR DATE, HE'S JUST MY BUDDY SO IF YOU LIKE ME COME TALK TO ME!"
Ok I'm tired and been spending too much time on this site.
Last note:
There's no reason any girl can't have a guy, even her choice of several guys because you girls are the lucky proud owner's of a vagina!
Yes! Everything a boy wants. You girls also have mouths. We boys knows that any girl can make us feel amazingly good because we think with our dicks! YAY!
All you girls need to do is be fun and let us know you're interested and we come running.
Doesn't mean you can get every guy you want but you certainly can get at least a few guys giving you a choice of guys every time you go out. There's really no reason you shouldn't have a guy if you want one.
Single guys are in bars, clubs, social events to meet a girl. Do him a favor and let him. Help him, go up to him. He'll appreciate it. Even if he doesn't like you he'll be flattered.
I've dated a lot of girls and I've had my choice of many many to choose from so here's an interesting point.
Most of the girls I end up with and 'dating' are the girls that came after me!
Is it normal to be almost 38 & never been in a relationship?
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Hi.
First, no it's not normal being 38/40 and never had a relationship or a real date.
Your problem is most likely you're not making yourself available by going out and being social and if you are the you're not allowing yourself to be fun and approachable.
Learn to smile, be fun, and learn to flirt with guys. Don't be a wallflower not saying anything or not having fun.
That keeps guys away from you.
I've had lots of girl buddies just like you and they were not ugly chicks.
Their problem was they had no idea how scared most guys can be to approach girls. So unless the girl is having fun, smiling at the guy, waves him over or whatever. He assumes she's not interested, doesn't want to be bothered or she's already got a boyfriend/taken and he doesn't want to get rejected and embarrassed.
Also look your best, hit the gym because you're competing with other females to get a male.
Males are mostly visual creatures we are very horny and shallow so they go for the hottest girl they can get. Considering we guys don't know you from another girl it makes sense to pick the best looking one at that point because it's all we got to go on.
Wear attractive clothes but nothing too slutty. Highlight your body but don't reveal too much.
Smile and have fun and if a guy is looking at you smile back and wave him over or go up to him.
I'd wait until he looks at you at least 2 or 3 times before you wave him over or if you decide to go over to him.
If your teeth are jacked up, then get them fixed and you won't be self conscious about smiling.
Oh yeah, don't do the smile without teeth. That sends the wrong message.
Smiling with your lips while not showing teeth tells members of the opposite sex, 'Yeah, you're ok. but not my type.' or 'I'm smiling to be polite not because I like you.'
Smiling with teeth says ' I LIKE YOU :) I want more of you.'
Don't leave it to the guy having to come up to you. That's lame and many guys are too scared to do that, that's partially why they drink :
To get liquid courage to be able to approach a girl.
If you go to a bar or social event with a guy right there you're making yourself not available because naturally most guys will assume he's your bf or date. It's not like you girls carry around a big flag saying
"THIS IS NOT MY BF OR DATE, HE'S JUST MY BUDDY SO IF YOU LIKE ME COME TALK TO ME!"
Ok I'm tired and been spending too much time on this site.
Last note:
There's no reason any girl can't have a guy, even her choice of several guys because you girls are the lucky proud owner's of a vagina!
Yes! Everything a boy wants. You girls also have mouths. We boys knows that any girl can make us feel amazingly good because we think with our dicks! YAY!
All you girls need to do is be fun and let us know you're interested and we come running.
Doesn't mean you can get every guy you want but you certainly can get at least a few guys giving you a choice of guys every time you go out. There's really no reason you shouldn't have a guy if you want one.
Single guys are in bars, clubs, social events to meet a girl. Do him a favor and let him. Help him, go up to him. He'll appreciate it. Even if he doesn't like you he'll be flattered.
I've dated a lot of girls and I've had my choice of many many to choose from so here's an interesting point.
Most of the girls I end up with and 'dating' are the girls that came after me!
GRRRR.