Is it normal to be afraid to have sex at 18?

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So i'm 18 years old and still a virgin. Most people assume i'm not a virgin because of the men that i date and the fact that i dont look like youre "typical virgin" which was a statement that a ex told me which got me really upset. But my question is, is it normal to be scared to have sex at my age? the thought just upsets me i'm scared about EVERYTHING like the pain, is it the right guy, STD's, the condom breaking. Every negative thought run through my head and i just tense up bad. i must admit that i'm glad i had the fear when i was younger because a large amount of guy has tried to sleep with me and i'm just happy i'm not 18 with like 20 partners. but i really love the guy i'm with and i want to take it to the next leave but i get so scared that i tense up. is that normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    At least you are responsible enough to worry about STDs, its also very respectable that you didnt succumb to any sort of peer pressure to have sex at a young age and act like a whore.

    You probably will surprised at just how natural and how quick the actual act will be when you do it. You may even question to yourself "wow, so that was sex?, I mean really, just that?"

    I know I did.

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    • Saycheese
      11 years ago

      I most certainly have a feeling I would do the same as you.

      But yes, I'm actually feel somewhat the same as you OP. I fear of getting STDs and getting pregnant but I know once I find a guy that I really like or I should say love that I won't put fear into it and just go with the flow.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago | pl

    Anything is scary when you focus on all of the possible negatives! Can you imagine what could go wrong on the car ride to school or work today?

    You seem like a worrier! Sex is fun, natural, and easy! Go for it, and try to relax and enjoy the ride a little bit!

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    I didn't lose it till I was 19 and I was so fricken nervous!

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  • Fam_man3
    11 years ago

    ull be fine man... just dive in! i was afraid also... NORMAL

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  • berttiebottz
    11 years ago

    It's totally normal I didn't have sex till I was 19. I waited till after high school and it just happened with my first bf.

    Furthermore you will never know when the right guy will come cause thee is never a "right guy" Sex is wonderful especially since you are young I say do it when it feels comfortable for you but be safe and use protection. There's so many STD's out there that you can't even believe.

    But it's great that it scares cause YES WE SHOULD ALL BE AFRAID bout who we sleep with.

    Anyways good luck!

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      I am so glad that thier is someone that hears the same krap I do I heard that too from the day I turned 16 It pissed me off . I hate that poeple assume you did it just becuase everyone did it after a certien age also I usually feel like punching them in the nose . Also the fact you are scarred is good you also would be a little nervoues if you had never done it befroe , also your smart enough to wiat and not fuck around with any man or person that comes your way even if your older and its your boyfreind . I personally think you should be comended dont do it with just anyone and it does hurt the first time and your suppose to bleed becuase you brake your hymen and if you sleep with random popel is how you get STD but you could just as well check to make sure your partners are not carrying something before you do it with them . your not a slut like poeple assume you should be thats a good thing just wiat for the right person maybe till you find someone you would like to marry . Also poeple assume that all virgins are shy hide in a corner have no freinds and are scarred to talk to poeple that isnt always true a virgin can seem like any kindve girl even the girl you didnt think was doing it could be a virgin . So dont listen to the asses that assume you should be a big old slut like scociety wants . Wait till you want to have sex maybe till your married so atleast you know they loved you enough to try to commit good luck and if anyone asssumes you arnt tell them to go screw themselves .

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  • Neapolitana
    11 years ago

    Good for you! It sounds like you should wait:)

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  • bigguy2010
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you have your head screwed on right. You are aware of the possible consequences of intercourse.

    What's wrong with waiting until you are sure you are ready?

    I waited until I was sure I was ready. She was my first wife. Now I wish I had waited longer.

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  • MarianasTrench4
    10 years ago

    If you are:
    0-21 years old you are too young to have sex. Really.
    Not ready, thats fine.
    A person that is afraid of sex, dont do it.

    People really pressure you into it. But dont loose your carf just because some people think you are not a virgin.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    I see so many variations of this question I don't feel like answering anymore.

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  • theworldsfuked
    11 years ago

    omg! we are the same!!! finally someones like mee, but seriously how did u manage dating without having rooted any of the guys? Don't they just dump u when u say no sorry?

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  • DollyBoots
    11 years ago

    Your young you have plenty of time to decide(: dnt worry to much bout sex n you can find a nice deep relationship with someone n then when your 100% committed to each other you can have sex(:

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  • russellnb
    11 years ago

    If you are ever afraid to have sex you should not. It is perfectly ok to save sex for the one who you should be happy having it with.

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  • randypete
    11 years ago

    you don't know what you are missing its not normal

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      That from randy pete lol .

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  • Peptox
    11 years ago

    You sound like a respectable young woman. Either you can lose it with someone you truly love and who loves you or it can be meaningless, your choice. Sex is the cornerstone of intimacy. In that moment you have a certain bond with each other. I won't judge if you are a virgin or not but sex is a special thing.

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  • Thewomanizer
    11 years ago

    yes its normal im 18 year old girl and still scared of SEX lol

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  • Anonymouslynormal
    11 years ago

    Have sex when your married or... yeah, when your ready. :).. Marriage to someone removes some fears about the stuff you mentioned.

    I find myself a bit fascinated to hear an 18 year old virgin. All the girls I know said that they lost their virginity at 18 (because of that debut thingy women celebrate at that age)17 and some 16.

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      Thats cuase they dont care what kindve krabs or STD they get they just want to get stuck in them .

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  • trollx1
    11 years ago

    have sex when your ready

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Sex doesn't hurt. It's pleasurable and that's why billions of people like it.

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  • yourmothersir
    11 years ago

    that pisses me off, so people assume because some people are not as atractive they must be virgins, but if you have big boobs and an hour glass figure you have to put out. Your virginity is about you, no one else. If guys make rude comments about your virginity it's time for the date to end.
    I understand you are nervous. Just because a lot of people put out as teenagers does not mean you have to. When the time is right, you'll know. Just give it to the right guy. You deserve the best.

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  • toenail
    11 years ago

    My wife is 62yrs of age. She does not want to have sex anymore. She says at this age a couple is companionship only. She doesnt even want to be touched. I am getting frustrated every day. resort to masturbation only what should I do

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    • SLAYERoftheWICKED
      11 years ago

      how old are you??

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    It's normal. I'm afraid of sex and I'm 19. For me, I'm uncomfortable about the whole thing. The idea of sex doesn't really interest me and the thought makes me nervous too. It's okay if you don't want to have sex. There's plenty of people who never do, and unless you are looking to have children, don't sweat it:)

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    • toenail
      11 years ago

      those who dont want sex in their lives are frigid just like my wife

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      I know right .

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    It scares me too. O_O

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Puss puss.

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  • olivia94
    11 years ago

    Some are just not really

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