Is it normal to be afraid to ask girl out?

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Hi guys. My 14 year old brother is having girl problems. He really likes this girl who is pretty. He is afraid to ask her out, though. I have tried to tell him that the girl probably likes him back, but he is not listening. He says he is too afraid. He doesn't want to be embarrassed. you guys know how girls can be sometimes. Complete b**ches. Anyway, I need some advise to give him because i ran out of my own advice. Please. He needs a girlfriend really badly. REALLY BADLY!

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[Old Memory]

13 years ago

Hehehehheheheheh yeah don't just go and ask her out. I did that and now I'm gonna get jumped by 9 other dudes that like her today.

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Alaxett

14 years ago

Relax, do you think a 14 years old guy *really* need a girl? For his age, he is inexperience so of course he is nervous, what a real man would do before settle down with a suitable wife is to pratice trial and error with several different woman. I've been embarrassed myself a several times, but look back, it's all worth it, I have been in a relationship that is basically a ball in my court, which is good thing.

For a starter, do you think his first girlfriend will be actually a hot one like her? She possibly already know the difference between nervous and confident guy after get used to be bother by hundreds of guy every month, so don't expect that she will say yes right off the bat.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  14 years ago
  
  Well, first of all ,she according to him, she does not get asked out. She is his friend, so he would probably know. Plus, all the guys at his school are all going for the popular b*tches, who she is not.
  
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  - Alaxett
    
    14 years ago
    
    Umm... to be distinctly about this and I don't intend to be offensive in any way, did you read carefully before post?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      14 years ago
      
      Yeah i did. By the way, why did you mention a wife? He is 14. What are you talking about?
      
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id41695

14 years ago

Every guy is like this at one point [about some girl] and there nothing you can do about it. He has to decide for himself if he really wants it.
if it was me i'd just take my brothers phone and text the chick asking her out for him. But that might not be possible for you.
try Bribing him Extorting him and Threatening him. in any order you want. and if all that fails just give up because there's nothing you can do. he's just not man enough.

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knexgunner

14 years ago

thats completely normal. i used to be the exact same way, but once you get it over with it's not nearly as bad as you expected it to be. if she says no, then she probably wasnt his type anyways.

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Fireflies_girl

14 years ago

Tell him just to do it! The worst she can do is say no. Your brother sounds like a sweet guy, and he probably wouldn't like a b**ch, so, nothing bad will happen. Girls like forward guys!!! GO FOR IT!!!

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StarTeddy

14 years ago

Well to be honest, asking a girl out is pretty tough, and even more so when the guy feels like it's his duty as a man to do it. The guys I like are usually shy, so I have to do all the moves first. I've developed a nuanced technique for it, too:

1. Get to know romantic interest. This is important. Make the person feel comfortable around you, and find out what the person likes and doesn't like.
2. Drop subtle hints that you appreciate the person. Like "you look beautiful today", or "I really like spending time with you". Gauge the person's reaction. If it's neutral or negative, back away for a little bit and keep spending time with the person.
3. Once the person reacts positively to hints, try more direct statements, like "I think I might like you more than just a friend" or "you're really special to me". The other person should reciprocate. (If not, go back a few steps, or just chill until the person gets used to your feelings)
4. Ask out. If everything else goes smoothly, this should work out.
5. Proceed with caution.

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Anonymous Post Author

14 years ago

Oh yeah. how old are you? Please share. You do know his situation. He needs a life. I mean, he is cool, but he still needs boost in self esteem.

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- Alaxett
  
  14 years ago
  
  Sure, I don't mind share a bit of myself. I'm a 23 years old deaf man, and because of that, I end up having a role as the one who observe people, so I have alot of interest in attempt to understand human. Even tho I know that I'm young, a few years ago in my life I began to study about what the heck is going on with girls who are going after only a few lucky guys and not others after giving me a little chance but a painfully heartbroken that slapped me back into reality. Ever since that time, I lost my interest in the dating scene as I'd rather keep girls as friends 'cause they're not good enough for me after they shot themselves in foot, I'm getting picky lately after I realized that love is a very dangerous thing if they let it get them. Which that led me to study about relationship between people that is both platonic and romantic. Forgive me for bubble about myself a bit too much, I'm ready to help this guy out at your request. About the wife thing... forget about it, it's too early for me to say anyway.
  
  Okay, from my experience, I would strongly recommand that he should keep his feeling for himself, and let her be his friend. If he have a sense of humor that make a girl laugh, bonus, that's a killer he can use to make her like to be relaxed around him. Despite that she is a bitch, she has alot to prove herself to him if she is fit to be his girlfriend.
  
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luckylime

14 years ago

My advice for him would be this: If you don't know the girl, then don't ask her out right away. The smartest thing to do is be friends first, that way you'll get to know her without being committed. And if you decide that you do like her, it makes it all that much easier to ask her out because you've known each other for a while (how can she embarrass a friend?) If she rejects your friend invitation, it's like getting rejected but not as harsh.

And also if your bro doesn't do this now it will be even harder for him later in life so tell him to have some confidence. Good luck to you both :]

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Malfoy

14 years ago

I've never heard of this kind of anxiety... I don't buy it

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[Old Memory]

14 years ago

I'm a girl and well most of us like boys who are shy and insecure of their feelings...so you shouldn't pressure him into asking her out cuz maybe he isn't ready....

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- jessicia16
  
  13 years ago
  
  Bull shit ... no girl likes anoying little boys who are insecure ... your a fake profile and im sick of gay dudes on here offering advice has a teen girl .... get a life
  
  PS my advice to the authors younger brother is tell him to grow up and quit being a coward.
  
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Jen118584

14 years ago

You guys could start by not referring to girls as "bitches." Just a thought.

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