Is it normal to be a woman with no guy friends?

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I'm a 27 yr old woman with really no guy friends (aside from 1 guy I dated, we have a long distance friendship). It's not like I haven;t had any interactions with guys, but it's true that I haven't had the opportunity to meet new guys in that I went to a small highschool where it was ok and not too noticeable to stay within your small clique and then went to an all womens' college, and now work in a women- dominated environment. The men I meet I hold a conversation with, but usually I don't get that close to them...now Ive been trying to date men online and wonder if the guys I meet are going to think Im weird for not having any guy friends and only women friends.. Im wondering how normal or abnormal this is

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  • alexisfreak
    14 years ago

    A) Do not date the people online. They are all stalkers and try to rape innocent girls.
    B) You have not been around guys a lot. This is a problem. You do not know how to socialize with guys. That was a problem in middle school. Girls would always act really weird when I would talk to them. Creepy.
    C) Just hook up with a guy you know. don't look for strangers. Remember from your childhood when your mom told you to not talk to strangers. she was right. I mean, you can talk to semi-strangers, but not complete strangers. They are all rapists!!

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    • badboy4u247
      13 years ago

      being totally honest here..guys sometimes prefer a women with little or no guy friends..it make them feel safe..as for online dating i won't say it's all bad but u really have to be careful,it's best to meet in a "very public' place for a while until your comfortable with him..yes guys will hit on you don't be surprised..if your not interested then just in a friendly way blow them off..if they persist then next time let them know u mean it a little more..i had the same problem when i was younger i didn't know how to act around women..they scared the hell out of me..lol.u will get the hang of it in time..good luck to u...

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    • Jen118584
      14 years ago

      I completely and totally disagree with you. I met my boyfriend online and it's the best relationship I've ever had and I never want to be with anyone else. If everyone on the internet is a rapist, then everyone in America is a rapist. Just don't agree to meet anyone alone in a dark alley and don't reveal where you live or work until you are comfortable. This might sound cheesy but it really helps to add people on Facebook first. That way you can see that they have other friends, family, and normal interactions with other people.

      I don't think it's a problem that you don't have any guy friends and I don't think you necessarily "do not know how to socialize with guys." You've dated guys right? Just remember that guys often think very differently from women. They have a whole different thought process. Anyways, I think it's very normal. I know plenty of girls that don't really hang out with guys.

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      • Ninjagirl
        14 years ago

        thanks for your very helpful reply. best to you!

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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    Keep doing what you're doing. Save yourself.

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  • SingleChemist
    9 years ago

    Felt I had to register to say this. I'm a single guy in the exact same situation. Place I work is all guys (only women are in their 50s), and I went to a small Catholic high school that had almost no girls (under 30 students in grades 7-12), then to a large college where I studied science and engineering, areas dominated by guys, so I feel your pain. Online dating I can only seem to attract weirdos, though that's probably just OkCupid. Never dated anyone, all my friends are guys, and so it's very awkward trying to meet women. Nice to know I'm not alone here.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Everything you said sounds normal. Lots of guys don't have girls as friends in their circle too. Its just the way it happens sometimes. I also don't see how any guy you meet would consider this unusual.

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    • Ninjagirl
      14 years ago

      Thank you Ollieo. This makes me feel a lot better and it makes sense. Some of my girl friends have said their guy friends have at many points 'hit on them' and it became akward, so Ive come to realize that maybe its not so unusual after all to not have any close guy friends if you're a woman (unless they are gay or there's no attraction factor). Thanks again for your feedback. Wishing the best

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