Is it normal to be a virgin at 20 years old in the year 2011?

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I'm a 20 year old female and I'm still a virgin. I'm in my second year of college and all of the people I know are having sex. I mean I haven't even had my first kiss yet!! I know it's probably stupid to say because I know there are other people out there but all the posts I find are more than a couple years old...So, is it normal to be 20 and not only be a virgin but not even have had a boyfriend of ever been kissed??

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  • kismetie
    12 years ago | pl

    I'll be 20 in may and I'm a virgin and I've also never been kissed. Hell I've never even had a boyfriend :P I'm in no rush to be losing my virginity, when it happens it happens, but most likely won't for some time.

    I do however want my first kiss to happen sooner than later :p

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Sorry if this comes off as weird but you sound like a very interesting person to talk to. Also, you picture is very awesome.

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      • kismetie
        12 years ago

        Yay, you think my picture is awesome lol :3
        No weirdness at all, sure we can talk!

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          I don't actually want to start a conversation on here per say. I just wanted to tell you that if we were in the real world, then I would love to talk to because you sound very interesting.

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          • kismetie
            12 years ago

            haha, okay. I just realized this place doesn't have a place to chat like most other websites.

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            • [Old Memory]
              12 years ago

              It has member chat but then it wouldn't be as personal, if that makes sense. I just love having deep interesting conversations with people. Especially when they have interesting view points.

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  • zchristian
    12 years ago | pl

    Even if i dont think virginity is something special i wont just throw it away on anyone...

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    • sunny_wantsome
      12 years ago

      Right Said

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Don't know if it's normal in this day and age but it's not abnormal. I'm exactly the same as you except I'm male.

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    • bananaface
      12 years ago

      If it's neither normal or abnormal then what is it?:L

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Something that isn't oftenly done doesn't make it abnormal.

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        • bananaface
          12 years ago

          Have you heard of statistical infrequency? So many problems with it, but it would technically make her abnormal.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            It's not "abnormal" because it's been like that in before times. It's nothing new. Infact, it's something old.

            Side note. I know why you decided to reply to me and not anyone else.

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            • bananaface
              12 years ago

              I commented asking a question to the OP, and when I replied to you there were only a few other messages. All of them I agreed with, so I didn't feel the need to comment.

              I'm not out to get you like you make it seem, just think that maybe you actually know the definition of normal/abnormal before you go telling people if they're ok or not. And I've said that to plenty others who have done the same thing, so don't flatter yourself.

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  • Dazzie
    12 years ago | pl

    What's the rush? You're still young. Don't go by what everyone else is doing because if you do, you'll regret it. As a female, it's a good thing you're still a virgin.

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  • Dot123
    12 years ago | pl

    Yeah its pretty common now days. I'm 21 and still a virgin.

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  • UnrecognizableMan
    12 years ago

    Lost it at 22. Then managed to get sex for a second time at 24. I'm still saving my money to afford the third time

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  • BASEDOFWG
    12 years ago

    I'm a guy and I'm in the same situation except I'm 18 I just think no one wants me and its gonna be like this the rest of my life

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    • SamanthaPettigrew
      12 years ago | pl

      seriously, you are JUST 18. stop thinking so much.

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      • BASEDOFWG
        12 years ago

        Its not the virgin part its just at this age i would at least had 1 girlfriend and atleast 1 person would find me attractive but I guess I'm not

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago | pl

      I guarantee you that there is some girl out there thinking the exact same thing. I know that sometimes people will treat like you're unimportant but there really is somebody out there for everyone. Things may seem bleak now but there will come a time when a lucky girl will step into your life and she'll fall head over heels in love with you. In the meantime, just keep your head held high and walk with confidence.

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      • BASEDOFWG
        12 years ago

        Thank you that made me feel alot better

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  • Saycheese
    12 years ago

    I'm almost 22 and I'm still a virgin. It doesn't matter to me at all.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    So what? It doesn't matter what everyone else is doing.

    You DON'T have to spread your legs and let some dude hump you just because the other girls are doing it.

    And if they harass you over it... just tell them you don't want to be a slut. Or that you have higher standards.

    =)

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    This has been asked many times, and yes it's normal. I'll be 20 next month and I'm a virgin. When it happens it happens...save it for somebody you care about & it'll be more powerful when it happens.

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  • magicof3
    12 years ago

    ofcourse its normal think well before loosing
    and you will definitely get your kiss

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I'm 19 but the rest of my story is the same as yours--college, never been kissed, virgin, never had a boyfriend, etc.

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  • sjshp
    12 years ago

    Don't rush, i'm not rushing either. Im 18 atm (girl), i'll just see where things take me. Don't rush, you'll regret it later (at least i know i will)

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    7 years ago

    don't feel bad.Half the people at any given comic con are virgins and they are waaaaaay waaaay older than you.....

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  • ultimafate
    12 years ago

    Hey its definitly normal im 20 and im a virgin too and im a guy...so i think its more embarrassing for me ahaha :p half my friends who have had sex early on either have a unwanted kid now or contracted some dirty std lol im glad im waiten for someone i actually like

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think this is more normal than people would lead on. I know you're not the only one out there and you will find someone who likes you for who you are. I'm 16 and am in no rush to lose my virginity.I know it'll happen someday so I don't let my hormones control my life.

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  • PumpkinKate
    12 years ago

    I was 19 when I lost my virginity. I waited for love, and my first time was amazing. There's zero reason to rush into it, or to just get it over with. It's 100% normal. Don't sell yourself short.

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  • barrowmanlvr14
    12 years ago

    Sometimes I feel like the movie "Never Been Kissed" is going to be a mirror to my life, except I'm not a petite skinny blonde I'm a tall size 20 brunette. @BASEDOFWG I'm sure you'll find someone, in my opinion it's easier for guy because you don't have as much pressure to be a D cup size 2 blonde. Though I recognize the difficulty with your male friends Judging you to 'hit it and quit it' you just have to hold out for aomeone that's worth waiting for. I've been telling myself that's what ive been doing since I was 16 but it isn't easy and sometimes I get embarrassed when my friends start talking about sex and I can't honestly contribute to the conversation! So I guess what I'm saying is thank you all for your input, it's made me feel less like an outsider

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  • chicken471bologna
    12 years ago

    I'll have sex with you :)

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  • donuthell45
    7 years ago

    I was 25 when I lost my virginity.

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  • TimAllen69
    12 years ago

    OKAY I HAVE A SOLUTION. see what u need to do is, well, it's not that you need to have

    sex just because it's normal to have sex when ur 20 in 2011. what u neeeeed to do is

    time travel to an era where being a 20 year old virgin isn't so fucked up. so like,

    according to my research, sometime pre 1950. THE KICKER IS, u shoula been married by

    20 in those days so it looks like you're an old maid no matter what. so, maybe you

    should just have sex with me. u know, like u scratch my back I'll scratch yours. or

    more

    like "you scratch my back, I'll get bummed when you stop scratching my back."

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  • SXRXE
    12 years ago

    I'm nearly 22 and male.
    2 past girlfriends and still a virgin.
    I gave up on relationships and more 3 years ago.

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    • barrowmanlvr14
      12 years ago

      it's not so much that I'm looking to lose my virginity; especially if I can't find the right person. But I just get frustrated when I know I am beautiful-though not hot by any means-and have a great personality and I can't find anyone who even seems interested in me, but I see all of these other young women my age and they all have had ten boyfriends and three partners. I don't understand why, I don't think I have a problem because I see other women bigger than me, with an awful personality getting to be in relationships, but like I said I just don't get it.

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  • Idodolphins
    12 years ago

    Yo bitch I will give u the best sex u cab ever imagine

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  • 7789dur
    12 years ago

    20-year-old female here. I was a virgin until a couple of months ago. It's normal, but sex is so fun, if I could have my time again, I would have done it earlier. But don't go rushing into things. What I did was go online to find a sweet boy that I connected with. I wouldn't have felt good if I lost my virginity for the sake of it - it takes time, practice and commitment to get any good at sex. I'm still learning! So a one-night thing for your first time is a bad idea. But nothing's going to fall into your lap - put yourself out there! See where you end up.

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    12 years ago

    That is completely normal. Virginity is an important thing, save it for someone special that you love and that person loves you as well. I think it is kinda cool that you havent had your first kiss yet because when you do im sure that it will be special(:

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  • Sophie5472
    12 years ago

    im 20 im female im a virgin wait till your ready and fap if your horny dont rush it imo even though id love to get fucked by someone i know ifi just had cheap sex with someone i dnt love id regret it (also not had a kiss yet :( )

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  • Reallypeople?
    12 years ago

    He/she obviously scares people to be their friend! May the fates go easy on him! Poor thing

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    • barrowmanlvr14
      12 years ago

      I'm confused by what you mean here?

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      • Reallypeople?
        12 years ago

        Wrong window! Excuse me everyone!
        Do not feel weird!

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    Its no big deal how old you are. But if youre worried then maybe the OP and the first poster should hook up.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Nothing more over rated then losing your virginity.

    Well except marriage mayby...but still losing your virginity is nothing to celebrate or look forward to in any, way, shape or form. You will see soon enough.

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    hurry up and get that monkey off your back! Go down a couple levels if you have to!

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