Is it normal to be a virgin at 26?

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I'm a 26 year old female. At first I thought I was choosing to remain a virgin until the day I got married. And to some extent I am. However, I have come to the realization that the sex aspect of things freaks me out. I'll be kissing my boyfriend and getting turned on then all of a sudden I either freak out and push him away, I feel emotional or in an instant I'm not turned on anymore. I don't know why. I don't know what's wrong with me. Is this normal?

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    I'm going to say normal due to the fact that I know quite a few guys in their mid twenties that are still virgins.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      and you couldnt help a brother out?

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        9 years ago

        Two of them actually asked me to "help them" once.
        Apparently in their eyes it's "torture" and they whined about being a virgin constantly.

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        • shuggy-chan
          9 years ago

          hahaha did you tell them there is nothing sexier then a guy whining about having his V-card still LOLOL

          like they should had at least tried a smoother approach, like i want my first time to be with someone i care about or blah blah, although i don't think your the type to be swayed by such things, it still be better then " WAHHHHH cant you just make me a man already, i mean your into disappointment right?"

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    No but, I commend you for wanting to save yourself. I also have this thing for virgins sooo. "How you dooin?". ;-)

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I think it's normal for a person to want to save him or herself for marriage if one feels so inclined. However, the fear and turn off that you're experiencing doesn't sound normal to me. I would suspect that you suffer from a fear of intimacy and or commitment. Also, there could be a possibility of some past emotional, or physical trauma of which you might not even be aware.

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    fear of intimacy probably.
    may stem from a past trauma or a social anxiety/insecurity.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I think you should see a therapist to try to get to the bottom of your fears. In this modern society, it is sadly not considered to be "normal", by most people, to be a virgin. There's even a stigma against it.

    I think this belief is both terrible and ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. Nothing at all.

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  • Energy
    9 years ago

    The being a virgin part? Normal. How it freaks you out...? Maybe you should work on it.

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  • Ilovewinter12
    9 years ago

    Obviously most people here are going to vote not normal,
    but appearently they forgot the fact that some people are asexual and have no sex drive, or just choose to not lose their virginities. It's not the end of the world.

    However, if you're married, your husband is probably expecting to have sex at some point. Have you explained to him that you're a virgin? Maybe tell him to take things slowly, and wait until you're ready to be sexual.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Statistically, no. For someone with a belief of saving themselves for marriage, I would say normal, although doing so in this day and age when guys are shying away from marriage, I wouldn't expect to be having sex all that soon.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Guys can't help but shy away from it, you'd have to be blind to reality to just jump into marriage anymore. At least being a guy that's my opinion.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Couldn't agree more.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I don't think being a virgin at 26 is all that normal.
    As for the rest of it, whatever has created your problem with intimacy, you need to get to work on. You are missing out on a wonderful part of living.

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  • flooshe
    9 years ago

    I'm gonna say its normal because its your legal right to not have sex

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  • zyxwxxx
    9 years ago

    It is perfectly normal to be virgin at 26. Staying virgin till marriage is a great thought - for boys as well as girls.

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  • OtherSide
    9 years ago

    It's fine - just don't die a virgin. You don't want to be given to a terrorist along with 71 other virgins.

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  • plainsight90
    9 years ago

    IT IS normal to be a virgin at 26, don't listen to some of these cocksuckers.

    However, it's not normal to be freaked out about it so much. I would talk to someone in order to figure out the underlying cause of your issue.

    It's not the worst thing in the world, you'll be okay! :)

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  • sanan22
    9 years ago

    if you want to stay virgin until after marriage then go for it.
    it's your choice and not a harmful one so nobody has the right to criticize you for that.

    according to today's standards, your choice won't be common or "normal" but it takes a lot of strength to have a choice like that.

    salute

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  • eu1979
    9 years ago

    I don't think it's normal.
    But the main problem, i think, is that you freak out about having sex, or the possibility of having sex.
    The problem is not on wanting to wait.

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  • Mr-Myrtos
    9 years ago

    If you want to be a virgin with 26 its your problem. Just don't play with your boyfriend and don't blame him if one of this days you come to know he is doing it with someone.
    When we don't have what we need at home we look outside forr it.
    Can't blame him.

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    • plainsight90
      9 years ago

      Don't blame person B for cheating on person A when they clearly know that person A will not have sex before marriage? Dang sir.

      Nobody is held at gun point to stay in a relationship(usually).

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      • Mr-Myrtos
        9 years ago

        I can understand you quite well and I respect or option but I'm also aware things this days changed quite a lot. I'm not saying always for the best coz they did not change for the best but unless we adapt to a new reality we will suffer with.
        I had a strong Catholic education in a country with 95% of catholic out of a population 60 millions. Most schools are catholic and children are educated in catholic schools at least till they finish college.
        Even so you hardly find someone thinking like that.
        I understand you well but there is a price to pay for everything and many times after the wedding just coz people they should have known each better before getting married.
        That could avoid so many divorces.

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        • plainsight90
          9 years ago

          Whether or not two people got to know each other before getting married doesn't give anyone the right to go sniffing and sneaking around their partner's back.

          If you want to have sex, find someone that will have sex with you. Nothing wrong with that.

          If you don't want to get married, don't get married.

          If you don't want to be with someone exclusively, state it.

          If you want to be in an open relationship, go for it.

          I don't judge anyone's lifestyle, BUT, if someone cheats on me, I don't give sympathy and I'm gone instantly. I always make sure to be financially stable and have a back-up plan. In this world, not everyone is meant to end up with a partner. People change, things happen, so you just gotta be there for yourself. In the grand scheme of things, marriage is no longer sacred.

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  • Merica7460
    9 years ago

    Are you ugly as fuck? If you are, yes, this is normal. If not, pick a dude, get him drunk and start pulling at his dong. You won't be a virgin for long.

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  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    u fat?

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