Don't ever bother asking others if you are normal when it comes to *your* sexuality. Sex is not in our bodies, sex is in our minds. And every person's mind is different. Don't let anyone convince you that you're "missing out" on something either. Because each person's unique set of values will also play into what your sexual experiences will be like.
For example, most teens *say* they are ready to have sex when they are in high school- and yes, some of them are. But more often than not, those teens that have sex were not ready to do so with their own sets of morals and personal values. They usually have a real sense of regret afterwards because they rushed into something they weren't ready for. They simply bought into this stigma that surrounds sex; that if you don't have sex or sexual experiences with another person, you'll be a loser. When in reality, that's just our minds hypnotized by media telling us how amazing sex is, because they want our money. Because let's face it- sex sells!
But there is no rule that says you must kiss, hook-up, or have sex by any certain age. Sexuality means something different to everyone, and psychology says the only thing that is ever to be considered abnormal when it comes to sexuality is when it's non-consensual. Everything else, it's anything goes! Some people are asexual- they just have no yearning desire for sex. Some people wait until marriage to have sex still. Some people have multiple partners, open relationships, or go on again and off again with their partners. All which fall under the category of "normal". Don't do something simply because you feel you have to. Do it whenever you want to- *if* you ever want to.
Is it normal to be a virgin at 23?
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I'm a human sexuality educator. (And also 23.)
Don't ever bother asking others if you are normal when it comes to *your* sexuality. Sex is not in our bodies, sex is in our minds. And every person's mind is different. Don't let anyone convince you that you're "missing out" on something either. Because each person's unique set of values will also play into what your sexual experiences will be like.
For example, most teens *say* they are ready to have sex when they are in high school- and yes, some of them are. But more often than not, those teens that have sex were not ready to do so with their own sets of morals and personal values. They usually have a real sense of regret afterwards because they rushed into something they weren't ready for. They simply bought into this stigma that surrounds sex; that if you don't have sex or sexual experiences with another person, you'll be a loser. When in reality, that's just our minds hypnotized by media telling us how amazing sex is, because they want our money. Because let's face it- sex sells!
But there is no rule that says you must kiss, hook-up, or have sex by any certain age. Sexuality means something different to everyone, and psychology says the only thing that is ever to be considered abnormal when it comes to sexuality is when it's non-consensual. Everything else, it's anything goes! Some people are asexual- they just have no yearning desire for sex. Some people wait until marriage to have sex still. Some people have multiple partners, open relationships, or go on again and off again with their partners. All which fall under the category of "normal". Don't do something simply because you feel you have to. Do it whenever you want to- *if* you ever want to.