It is quite understandable that one is frustrated at being a 30 year old virgin. I'm close to 'achieving' that myself.
For me, it's not just about being a virgin. It's about not following the normal life development that is evident in other people's lives, e.g., moving in with someone; and it's about fearing that you are trailing behind, making it less likely that you could find out how to be a good partner if the chance arose.
But I have a suspicion, that if you want things to change, you need to put a lid on that kind of attitude. If you don't like your personal traits, then endeavour to change them. Entertaining thoughts about how sad your life is in such a dramatic way is probably not going to help, except for fuelling a nice session of self-pity. It may hurt to think that your negative emotions are doing jack shit to help you.
And are you so sure about the limits of other people's understanding? They may very well be able to understand how your life is or at least parts of it. Don't go around thinking you are too special for ordinary people to able to understand your situation, if that's what you are doing.
You can probably find people who are worse off than you. There have been people who were older than 30 and still virgins. Take a look at the people you see in public whose situations seems worse than yours.
I know I'm not alone with my problems. Everyone has them i'm sure.but all the same thank you for reading my post and being so understanding and honest.Feels nice to know people like you still live in this world we have today, thank you very much:)
is it normal to be a unconfident, angry, self loathing,virgin at 30?
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It is quite understandable that one is frustrated at being a 30 year old virgin. I'm close to 'achieving' that myself.
For me, it's not just about being a virgin. It's about not following the normal life development that is evident in other people's lives, e.g., moving in with someone; and it's about fearing that you are trailing behind, making it less likely that you could find out how to be a good partner if the chance arose.
But I have a suspicion, that if you want things to change, you need to put a lid on that kind of attitude. If you don't like your personal traits, then endeavour to change them. Entertaining thoughts about how sad your life is in such a dramatic way is probably not going to help, except for fuelling a nice session of self-pity. It may hurt to think that your negative emotions are doing jack shit to help you.
And are you so sure about the limits of other people's understanding? They may very well be able to understand how your life is or at least parts of it. Don't go around thinking you are too special for ordinary people to able to understand your situation, if that's what you are doing.
You can probably find people who are worse off than you. There have been people who were older than 30 and still virgins. Take a look at the people you see in public whose situations seems worse than yours.
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I know I'm not alone with my problems. Everyone has them i'm sure.but all the same thank you for reading my post and being so understanding and honest.Feels nice to know people like you still live in this world we have today, thank you very much:)