Is it normal to be a recluse and be happy?

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I am 21 year old college student but hardly fit the profile of the average go-out-drinking-every-weekend college student. It is not to say that I don't know how to have fun. I consider myself an adventurous and spontaneous soul. I have been told I'm the happy girl, which is a really lovely compliment to hear about oneself (not to toot my own horn).
I like to spend time by myself and can recluse myself in my apartment, quite often, watching movies, reading, listening to music, singing, or writing. I do have two wonderful friends, and four others whom I consider my very good friends, though we don't live near each other (we do keep in contact though).
I live by myself with my dog, and I love living by myself and having my own space.
I consider myself a very private person and am very picky about choosing my friends and/or boyfriends.

I realize that writing this story makes me sound like a nut, but believe me or not, I am not a crazy, lonely, ugly person. I'm quite the opposite. I am not one to share my stories or questions, I'm just curious if it is considered "abnormal" to others to recluse yourself, and find happiness in it?
Thanks.

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  • moshimight
    11 years ago | pl

    This makes me happy. I feel the same, I value time alone more than anything. I get so tired of people hassling me about it. I try to tell them that people are different and while I enjoy my friends, I prefer to be alone most of the time. It's not that I don't love them but I just don't have a need for alot of interaction.

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  • Gonzo
    13 years ago | pl

    Most likely your whats called introvert. Basically means your perfectly fine being alone, nothing at all to do with depression or anything else. Its not a life preference, your born an introvert or an extrovert. Google it to learn more.

    While not the majority are introverts, it is normal.

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  • Golden
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm glad to hear your story because I too find happiness in a solitary lifestyle. Even though I have the same good friend from Middle School , talk to another friend I've had since 1st grade and also have a small group a wonderful pals, I love being my own best friend ;) I find it easier to study (I'm enamored with history), read, paint, write and reflect on the secret joys and enlightenment we can all find if we give ourselves the opportunity. Don't get me wrong, I love my family, I love my pals but I love me too and it sounds like you feel the same way about yourself. It's a good feeling and I'm glad others have experienced it. Thanks for posting!!

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  • gaelicwolf
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm the same way. Keep your standards for friends & relationships high, and keep doing thing like writing that keep your mind busy. You sound like you're enjoying life; keep it up! :)

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  • Alaxett
    13 years ago | pl

    You literally make me feel happy after I finish read your post. I don't know about your life in seclusion, but if that's what make you find happiness, then there's definitely nothing wrong with that. Let us spread happiness around the world!

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  • random_man
    13 years ago | pl

    I am actually really relieved to see your post. I am also a 21 year old student of a recluse nature and fond of it; when and if i go out i always spring to be the Designated Driver. I prefer a good movie with friends at home. I would even consider myself picky in the same way... Quite frankly I was working on the wording for a post exactly like yours when i randomly found yours. So I guess my vote is normal? I'm also kind of seeking validation for the same thing here... but... I'm goin with normal haha

    hope this helps!

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