Is it normal to be a little irritated at this?

It sounds to me like you really do not like the man you are with. He is immature obviously which does not tell you much about what will end up happening in the future. You have to weigh this out and decide quickly if you are willing to wait. In the meantime his choices are his choices not yours. In fact trying to get someone to behave or act differently is futile and impossible. The only person that you have any control over whatsoever is you. Based on that make a decision and make a choice then accept the results of that. I once let someone go who I could not stand, I thought, had I waited a couple more years she turned out very nicely and is one of my best friends. We have a child together and she was my wife but fifteen years younger than me. I got impatient and did not accept my original choice of marrying her when I knew she was young and there would be challenges. I lost sight of my original reasons for choosing to marry her and that was because I loved her. It ended up a huge mistake in this case. But it might have just as easily gone the other way....Frankly though in your case not married and with all those issues I am wondering what keeps you with him at all you sound miserable and life is too short to be waking up each day that way.