Is it normal to be a girl and not really believe in love?

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I'm a girl who's never been heartbroken I'm a bit scared of love.

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  • theabider
    12 years ago

    Normal, but sad...and also shows you are simply inexperienced and ignorant. However, it is wise to be cautious. You will probably have to wade through a bunch of croaking frogs before you find your prince, but it you keep your chin up, you can do it. However, if you have no desires for such a thing, maybe you are meant to lead a single life...and that is also normal.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    I'm not going to lie; breaking up with someone is a terrible experience, you are normal to be afraid. The thing is though, everything up until then is usually so wonderful and beautiful, you'll want to break up a thousand times over just to experience it again. That's why people keep going back for more. That's why they don't let the fear of heartache hold them back. What's a bit of misery when you get to experience love.

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  • pondford
    12 years ago

    Who said all girls have to believe in love? I'll tell you who: Nobody. It's just the dumb stereotypes talking.

    So yes: It's normal for a girl to not believe in love.

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  • evil_elvis
    12 years ago

    Think of it as a nurturing feeling you would get from a caring parent. If you've never felt that and are brave enough to ask yourself why, then you might still be open to the feeling people call love.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Basically you don't know what love is until you have EXPERIENCED it :)

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  • MsMegan
    12 years ago

    Totally normal. I'm a girl, I'm pretty sure I don't believe in love. And I don't consider myself cynical at all!
    It's hard to believe in love when so many idiots think they're in love and they're so obviously NOT. I say just have fun with whoever you want to, and if you're going to fall in love with them you will!

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    12 years ago

    It is normal. To be scared isn't uncommon because it is something you have never felt before and worry that if you end up loving someone the love won't be reciprocated from that other person. So take your time, you will date and find love when you are ready.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Not really abnormal. Half of the females on this world believe in a "I've been in a relationship with a guy so I know I love him" type of love, which explains why there are so many single mothers, due to them not really knowing the guy they decided to have a baby with. The other half know what love is and plan out relationships and get an idea of their relationship before throwing the words "I love you" around.

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    • equanimity
      12 years ago

      There's a lot of negative stereotyping in your comment, young man. You have a lot to learn about love, relationships, single mothers, and the "other half" of the female population. But nice try. :P

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        So, you're telling me that a woman having a child with a man they don't know well enough about to know he'll not be commited to parenthood is not one of the reasons we have single mothers? It's either that or:
        A. Mostly all single mothers are stupid and fall for the typical male's word.
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        B: She intentionally had the baby when she knew the man wasn't ready to be a father.

        So yes, it was a nice try, a pretty accurate one aswell.

        But I'm curious. Why do you think we have so many single mothers?
        Then once you have your answer, say this after it.
        "Was having a baby with the man a good idea? Shouldn't she of known that the person she "loved" didn't really want to be a father yet? Or perhaps doesn't ever want to be one? Shouldn't I know this from the person I "love"?

        I have a pretty firm grasp on all of those things. Some people just like to think that love is a fairytale when it obviously isn't. Sure, maybe the greatest happyness can be achieved through love, but not in the sense that most people seem to think it does.

        But still, I want your say on the matter, what do you think these three things are. Giving that you say I'm wrong, you must know what all three are.

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        • bananaface
          12 years ago

          It's impossible for a woman to predict whether the man will stick around after having the baby.

          Their relationship could easily change over the pregnancy, which neither of them could predict; they still could have been in love though.

          The man might act eager and may really feel that way, but when reality kicks in, they may not be able to deal with it, so they bail. How on earth could the woman predict this?

          Also, a lot of single mothers are single because after the baby was born the relationship didn't work out. Nobody can predict another persons behaviour, even if they are in love.

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  • Quiblum
    12 years ago

    Totally like me!! Very courageous of you to say it honestly! Don't worry, find someone and they will rock your world! (cheesy, huh)

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    I think a lot if people who have never been in love are scared of it. For most of those people, they eventually find someone who changes all of that. For some people that never happens, which is very sad indeed. The bottom line is, it is normal to be scared.

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