Is it normal to be a feminist yet be sexually submissive?

I say feminist in that I think there needs to be equal rights etc for women, i hate misogyny, sexism, or discrimination of any kind. In my work and social life I am pretty confident, out going and can easily stand up for myself. And let me just say that I abhor the idea of sexual/domestic abuse or anything of the sort.
However, being dominated in my sex life really turns me on. I love the feeling of not being in control. The thought that a man is using me as a sexual object in order to please himself is a massive turn on. I have not always acted on them but I have some pretty extreme fantasies including, rape fantasies, kidnapping, fantasies of being kept naked in a cage, of being sold as a slave, of being tied naked to a pole with men being able use me as I please, of being branded, as being trained as a dog, of me being used as furniture. The list goes on.
What worries me is that these sexual fantasies go so extremely against my morals and beliefs of my normal day to day life.
So, IS THIS NORMAL??!

Is It Normal?
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  • Not normal, totally not normal to be a feminist. It will ultimately hurt you in life, its okay to be for womens rights but feminism is for the stupid people.

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  • No consensual sex act is inherently sexist. Do whatever you like sexually, as long as everybody consents.

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  • You can't help your fantasies for instance I am a man and will love to dominate in the bedroom but also wouldn't mind being tied up, crossdressed and gagged.

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  • I'm sure you're not alone. My love interest identifies with being a feminist, and she's a switch who leans towards the submissive side.

    The core definition of a feminist is someone who believes women should be free, and everyone is free to enjoy whatever they please so as long as it isn't harmful to others.

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  • You might want to check out "the Pervocracy." It's a blog about feminism and BDSM and how it's okay to practice both.

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  • There are two things at issue.

    1) Can a feminist fantasize about being dominated?

    Sure. Why not? Even feminists have a right to role play.

    2) Is it okay to be sexually exploited in your fantasies?

    As long as you are fantasizing about a consenting adult, it's fine. When you start fantasizing about fucking children, animals, or other "epic fail" subjects, it is not okay--I feel-- and you should seek help.

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  • Absolutely. A lot of fantasies are a subversion of our normal attitudes. Sexual submissiveness in no way undermines feminism.

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  • They are fantasies, nothing wrong with it...

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