Is it normal to be a bisexual?

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Okay ufff, where should I start? I just turned 22 years old, and I describe myself as a bisexual. I am not out to anyone. There might be a bit of suspicion but I hide it quite well because i don't act gay at all. Truth is I like men way more than women, but feel I can have a relationship with a woman, if she's attractive. People think I am a bit of a player because I guess im a good looking guy as people say. Truth is, I haven't been with anybody because I guess I am too afraid to being discovered. What should I do? I dont' want to keep being sheltered from having feelings for somebody, but I also don't want to come out and changing family', friends, or co-worker perceptions of me. I don't want to keep living a lie, but I don't want to come out either. I live in small town where voice carries and I don't want to be typecasted. I havent' had sex with women because im afraid to not be aroused enough to be with one, thus she finds out the truth and well I think we all know how that goes. Men? I am sure there are plenty like me out there ,but living hidden like I do its almost impossible for me to meet someone. There are a few gay men out there but no one interest me like that because they are too girly, might as well be with a girl if thats the case. What should I do? I hate this about me, but what can I do I was born this way.

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  • DADNSCAL
    10 years ago | pl

    Fist of all, I was in the exact same situation, an so I moved away from my small hometown when I was 22, never to return. That allowed me the freedom to explore my sexuality, an discover I was bi. I married a woman who is OK with it, and have kids and grandkids. Secondly, you might be gay too, in which case accept it and yourself. Thirdly, DON'T listen to people like Benny4; you'll go nuts.

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  • MESOMIKE
    13 years ago | pl

    You can't continue to run from this issue. I understand the small-town deal. When you get tired enough, you will surrender to "so what" as far as what they think. I've had struggles. Afraid of not getting off with a woman and afraid of really getting off with a man. Who knows what it will be like. Your experience might reveal that you are in fact gay, but once you have that experience, it becomes easier to accept. Once you accept the outcome, you can move forward....whatever that means to you. You'll know which way to go when you experience it....all the rest will fall in place....trust me, and best of luck

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  • Benny4Jesus
    12 years ago | pl

    Romans 1:18-32
    Nature shows it plainly that homosexuality is not designed. Statistics show it plainly that homosexuality is not healthy. Homosexuals show it plainly that it is not beneficial to society.
    Wisdom shows us what is plain, the real problem is people want to do what they want to do, even when it is wrong. It's been going on since the beginning of time.
    The last verse here says that "they know the judgement of God." Everyone has been given a basic scale in the heart to measure right and wrong. Even if we were to "omit" homosexuality out of the equation, everyone would still be caught by their own words and found guilty of doing wrong. Doing good deeds do not erase the wrongs we have done, they only cover them up. The problem here is, heaven is heaven because everyone there is sin-free. The only hope for us all is to have our sins completely forgiven rather than covered up. And Jesus is the only One who can do this.

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