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To be vegetarian, virgin, celibate, university student, feminist, lonely but also funny.
I'd like to have a boyfriend but no man will accept going out with a girl that isn't willing to have sex, so is it normal for me to wait for the one, while having a strange personality?
thanks! :)
i think its great that you are waiting for the right man!
a lot of people now just take sex and a game and give it no meaning..
its supposed to be a strong bond between to people who have strong feelings [love] for each other
Course its normal, wow do you seem like my freind .. But, im a guy, and i think girls are better then guys, since they just are, if i loved a girl, id never make her have sex, a guy does not love you if he wants you for that, ITs good your in colledge, everyone can feel lonely, too. So just wait for the right guy, that loves you w/o sex.
Honestly, normal is overrated. I am not normal and I prefer it that way.
I'm young, in high school still, and I am definitely not normal compared to the rest of the people.
Normal there means having sex when you're 12, having sex all day every day, doing drugs, being a bum, listening to music that everyone else listens to, not care about your grades.
Basically, what I'm saying is that who cares if it's normal!? Lol. I guess what you want to know if it's a good idea..I guess.. 'Cause you shouldn't care what any one else thinks.
So don't have sex 'til you're married. It'll make it much more romantic anyways. xD
Be vegetarian, because it's better; morally, physically, and enviromentally.
And what's wrong with feminism? I'm a male feminist! xDDD
Some guys WILL go out with a girl who won't just fall in to bed with them. Not all guys are sexy crazed...well, I take that back, All guys ARE sex crazed (Thank God :) ) but many guys handle it better than others.
Find a guy who shares your interests outside of bed, then see where it leads.
You're welcome
Tobra Marie
You rock , and that is definitely normal.
I'm a feminist too!
Woo! : )
Girls just want to wait for the "right" moment to do it.
@Nearly
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I hate guys who think feminism means lesbian man hater. They obviously have no idea what feminism is, and they are intimidated of your strength and conviction.
im a virgin, im not gonan wait around for the one, im gonna wait till i find a guy i feel really comfortabl with. if guys dont want you cos your saving yourself they're prats, there are other celibt people int there, find a celibt guy, sorted.
and what is a feminist ? :S
and good luck fining a guy with a brain to know, and eyes to see your a fab gal XD
I'm going to be honest, and I mean no disrespect. I'm a girl and you sound VERY high maintenance. That being said, if you truly feel like you want to wait for your one, then you should not compromise that. It will just make choosing the right one easier. If they stick around even after you explain this, then he is certainly a keeper. Keep in mind, that you will probably have a harder time getting dates. But that is a compromise you will have to make to get what you want.
I think your great, I applaud you for having the gumption to hold off until you find the right man. You don't find many women like you in this day and age, good for you!!
One day you will meet someone who will think you are just the person he waited for because you are all the things you have said you are. Don't rush it. Jus be a friend and have friends and it will happen
To be honest, it just sounds like you are fishing for compliments. Yes its normal to be 20...? And an individual.
Dude, lot's of guys (inluding me) can respect the no sex thing. sure after 6 months we might wanna have some foreplay but hey mabey ther's a guy out their who really does,t wanna have sexa ta al. (Ps. do you not wanna have sex at all or do yu wanna have sex later in therelation ship
You and me both! I'm in agreement with more or less all those ethics you stated there.
It's good to see you're on the look out for the right one because there are so many wolves out there who think differently, keep your guard up!
OMG!! you are me!
I thought I was alone.
Ive come to the conclusion that I am surrounded by people who are opposite of me, maybe thats the case with you as well.
I agree with Fleabitten's post.
Sounds great! You don't sound weird at all. I'm a vegan, virgin (though not by choice), and a feminist, among many other things.
Find a guy who's willing to love you for you, not for the fact that you'll put out on the first date.
Keep to your ethics.
Go out and meet people who are like you. Go to places where they might hang out. If you want a religious man, go to church. If you want a vegetarian, try a meditation group or a veggie cooking class! This will help with your loneliness, and at the very least you'll make new friends.
Wow, I can't believe how ignorant some of the responses are on here. This girl's life is not harming you. She came here looking for help. Why are so many of you saying such stupid things? *caugh caugh SOLIMORPHIC*
its normal..girls like you are worth a million bucks.
good guys would much rather be with a girl like you than some hand me down HIV infested jizz rag of a slut.
Dont drink, dont smoke, dont sleep around...take good care of your health...you eventually find someone who will love you more than anything. you remind me of my gf,vi love her to death, and i'm a guy...to me love is more than just emotions...its an action. i'm willing to wait acouple more years.
You don't necessarily find the right guy. No guy will ever be exactly what you imagined after all you have a one in 3 billion chance to find a man who is exactly how you imagined. I knew a girl just like you and i asked her out (she was 16 though but where i live your expected to have sex when you are 14 so it is proportional to your situation), she knew what i was like and said no even though she liked me
and told me so. The point is if everyone right for you is scared of being inadequate. If a man brims with confidence their generally after a shag (sex). If they are intimidated they probably really like you and so are scared. These are the people who aren't after just sex and so these are the people you should be looking for.
P.S. If a person shows signs of sexual frustration they are most likely still a virgin or not getting any and just want to get in your pants.
honey, i am just like you. and trust me there are guys out there that'll understand the "no sex" part. if anything, they should respect it. there aren't many, but i know a few. give it time, you're still young.
yep. completely normal, if a little uncoomon. hey, i'd be proud of being a feminist, you've done some great thigs for the world. i am woman, hear me ROOOAAR!
I don't know about all that, but i think choosing to wait is a great idea!
Hey,
I don't think waiting for the right guy would make you a femanist.......hmmm not so sure about my spelling there. But I'm not a femanist and I'm going to wait.
Anyway, I'm going to wait till I'm married and I think it's really great that you're waiting for the right guy.
Wow I think I said wait about 20 times just then.
Lol.
The point is, I know loads of ladies who are virgins and are older then you, i'm sure you will find the right guy really soon.
Xxx
I am a 21yr old virgin and feel the same way. I am a male and find it very hard at times to not think about having sex, but I also want to be pure and clean for my wife on my wedding day. Good job and keep it up. Dont fold under the peer pressure, I believe that waiting until marriage is the best way to go, you get to keep a clear concious for when you do meet the one.
totally i wanna do that 2 but when i say that ppl laugh at me :s i wanna stay vergin till i get meried :P
oh my god, you're totally normal. but when you fall in love your views might change.
I can deffinitely respect the fact of you saving it for marriage. There are more than a few girls I've known who're doing that and they all have good reasons. I can deffinitely understand you feeling lonely, too. In this sex-obsessed society of ours it'd be montrously difficult for a girl to find a guy who's actually willing to wait. I'm not trying to sound harsh when I say this but if this is the life choice you're making, don't expect it to be easy. Don't be surprised when a guy won't go out with you or if you're with a guy and he leaves you after hearing your celibate. Don't get me wrong, there are guys out there who are willing to wait, but finding somebody like that is going to take time. Just hang in there. Patience is a virtue and will pay off soon enough. :)
@flikr
I see ure spelling aint improved or is that another 'american english' spelling of DYKE?
If I were a woman, I wouldn't wait until marriage for one reason: he could have a small penis. At the very least I would look at his penis before we got married. Not to mention in my opinion waiting until marriage is anti-feminist. Though 90% of you self-proclaimed feminist are full of shit and giant hypocrites, so that matters very little. Here I'll prove it too: Hypothetical *you are in a committed live-in relationship with a guy; do you expect him to put the toilet seat down after he's done urinating?* If you answer yes, then you expect special treatment based on your gender and are therefor full of shit. Good day. :]
Good for you,girl.If i ever fell in love with a woman,i'd definitely fall for a virgin.Theres something about them..but right now im just having having fun fucking every hot women that comes up to me.Dont worry there are men out there who wants to be with a virgin i am one of them,but not at this ponit in time.Maybe i'll date a virgin in 3 years.
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listen to my advice!
Vegetarian and feminist bother me a little. If it's what you like, then that's fine. If you are simply following the neo-hippy movement, then that got old about eight years ago (or when people started paying $20 for farm raised beef that is exactly as healthy as the USDA approved $8 ones at the local Safeway).
Being a vegetarian feminist is perfectly normal. Being a virgin is somewhat unusual probably, but it's still normal. However if you're celibate by choice, why? If it's for religious reasons, it may make sense to date within your religion. That way your boyfriend will understand that you want to wait for marriage. If it's not about moral convinctions/religion and you're scared of sex, that's not normal and you should see someone about that.
vegetarian - meat is healthy and necessary
virgin - Huh? sex is FUN
celibate - Ditto
university student - ok...
feminist - disdain for men
lonely - given the above, I am not surprised!
funny - I wonder who actually laughs
strange personality - never would have guessed
You will wake up one day when you are older wondering where all the years went - your friends then will be talking about all the fun they had traveling with men and friends, etc, the same years you were celibate and sitting around.
Almost as bad as the 19 YO poster who wants to have a baby (and tie herself down for 20 years).
If you ever decide to have sex, you will be a much better lay, for a variety of reasons.
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So frankly I don't know which one is the right spelling for a female that likes to pretend to be a man with her lesbian lover.